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AIBU to expect my friend to not take the piss?!?

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user1122 · 23/03/2017 16:22

Ok so a few months back I was moving house and selling up lots of my unwanted things so she asked for an item that I had lots of interest in but obviously with her being a friend I said yeah sure, she said oh I don't have the money just yet but il give u it soon, so I held onto the item until I moved house then I had to give it to her as I didn't have the space for it, she said il deffo get that money to u next week, 3 months later she has the item and is using it every day and I don't have the cash! In the last 3 months she has been on 2 city breaks with her boyfriend meals out with other couples and booked a holiday abroad, so AIBU to think if she can afford to do all these things she could afford to pay me back? It's getting awkward now cos I'm actually really annoyed about it and I think she thinks iv just fergot about it! What should I do now?

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SaorAlbaGuBrath · 23/03/2017 16:51

If you owe money to a friend, you pay them before city breaks/spray tans and any other luxuries. She's not treating you fairly or with any respect.

Dontjudgeme1 · 23/03/2017 16:52

I just cant understand you, she is taking you for a ride. Put your big girl pants on and ask her for your money. It is making me cross reading your post. I hope you do get your money, but dont hold your breath.

Hereward1332 · 23/03/2017 16:55

She clearly doesn't intend paying you.

Tell her you need the money next week or will have to sell the item.

twisterinyogapants · 23/03/2017 16:56

Ask for the money back and if she says she doesn't have it ask for the item back to sell. Once you have the item back change the subject.

HecateAntaia · 23/03/2017 16:56

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Original poster
user1122 · 23/03/2017 17:14

I have asked for it tho? I can't physically make her give me it iv asked 3 times! I'm going to text her tonight and explain that I actually need the money and feel it's unfair how she has treated me

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GoodDayToYou · 23/03/2017 17:15

I would def send her the text. If she comes back with a negative, simply reply, 'No problem - can I have it back so I can sell it? I can collect it when I pick the kids up.' This isn't a big deal, it really isn't. (The much bigger deal is her not paying you.)

GoodDayToYou · 23/03/2017 17:16

X post. I meant the text I suggested before. No need for aggro.

Miserylovescompany2 · 23/03/2017 17:23

I would just say you are extremely short this week, could you please give me the money you owe me. I don't want to fall out over this, but, I've already asked three times and shouldn't of had to ask once really. Thanking you in advance...

PlaymobilPirate · 23/03/2017 17:24

You're over worrying - she's out of order... not you.
Just text and say 'I've got a buyer for the item you've borrowed - I'll pick it up tomorrow'

autumnmonths · 23/03/2017 17:28

I would text back and say that you'll pick the money up when she collects the kids. If she's out getting a spray tan she can come to you via the cash machine. Or text her your bank details and say that you'd appreciate it if she could transfer it over today because you need it.

expatinscotland · 23/03/2017 17:33

She's not 'nice', she's a fucking pisstaker. Text her, 'I really need the money for X. I've asked several times, it's really unfair because I could have sold that item but held it back for you and gave it to you without payment in good faith. I'm really hurt you haven't paid for it.'

And STOP picking up her kids and doing her favours until she stumps up.

She's a user.

Serialweightwatcher · 23/03/2017 17:33

How much money is it?

Nocabbageinmyeye · 23/03/2017 17:43

Just text her back "No problem I'll mind x, when your collect her will you bring the money for ", if she says she doesn't have the money just say " Just bring the item so and I'll sell it as originally intended, see you later"

floraeasy · 23/03/2017 17:51

How about "I really need my money. Please have it ready for when I collect your kids. I can't pick them up unless you have the money ready for me, I'm afraid."

mickeysminnie · 23/03/2017 17:51

Send nocabbageinmyeye's text.

previously1474etc · 23/03/2017 17:57

Turn up at her house and take it back, if she says she wants it tell she can have it when she pays for it.

previously1474etc · 23/03/2017 17:57

*her

JustSpeakSense · 23/03/2017 18:00

'Dear x, please could you give me the money for by the end of the week, if not could you please return it to me so that I can sell it to someone else. If I could have afforded to give it to you I would have, but unfortunately I need the money. Thanks, User1122'

Mulberry72 · 23/03/2017 18:04

Tell her that if she can't/won't pay for the item then you'll take it back to sell as you need the cash.

She's no real friend if she takes the piss like this!

RandomMess · 23/03/2017 18:05

Ask her when payday is - probably the 31st, then arrange to get it off her then.

How much does she owe?

AhNowTed · 23/03/2017 18:06

OP this worked for me... was asked for money from an estranged relative. Gave me the run-around for months, went on holiday, blah blah.

I said I am overdrawn and I need it urgently.

No need to say you feel let down. Just say you're overdrawn and need the cash. End of.

JustSpeakSense · 23/03/2017 18:35

How much does she owe you?

ThePiglet59 · 23/03/2017 18:48

Why ask for advice and then just ignore it?
If you are never going to try to force her to give you the money stop complaining.

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user1122 · 23/03/2017 19:00

I'm not ignoring the suggestions iv txt her asking once again but il prob get the same answer, I can't force her to give it to me, these things are easy to comment on but not so easy when it's you having to say it

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