AIBU to cancel this holiday

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We are due to go on a holiday with DH's family soon to celebrate MIL's birthday, she is really excited.

However, I've just found out I'm pregnant with DC3 and need some honest opinions on whether to go or not. Both previous pregnancies I have suffered horrendous morning sickness/HG, and another pregnancy ended in an early miscarriage. We are due to go away when I'll be approx 10 weeks so expecting to be quite unwell by that point and the trip will involve a plane ride and long drive, but then I will be able to rest for the week with babysitting on tap from family.

I am totally unsure whether to cancel or not. If we do I know that MIL will be devastated. It's not feasible for DH to go without me (my youngest DS is only 15 months and still BF and I'm not ready for a week apart, and I can't look after them on my own whilst poorly either). However, stress / travel make HG so much worse. I'm worried if we cancel that MIL will think I'm being over-sensitive and a bit of a delicate flower. We don't have the best relationship, but do get on ok now.

So looking for some honest views, AIBU and a bit precious to want to cancel and should I just stock up with sick bags and put up with a difficult journey?

Oh I feel for you OP

You're stuck between a rock and a hard place

I had HG with my first pregnancy. Lasted 16 weeks and I was hospitalised 3 times with dehydration. No way could I have handled a plane journey with all the smells.

But my second pregnancy I didn't have HG at all.

I know you said you had it with both of yours but maybe you might avoid it this time.

You're not overreacting to the hyperemisis at all. It's horrendous.

However, I do think you're being precious about your 1 year old and him/her going without you.

If you have someone who can stay with you, the rest of the family should go, IMO.

In all seriousness, if you are getting HG again then it may be worth considering stopping breastfeeding for the sake of your own health. The biggest risk with HG is dehydration, personally I struggled to keep fluid down at all and I was physically weak. I honestly can't imagine that continuing to breastfeed through it is going to be anything other than an additional strain on your already struggling body.

It would also make it possible for DH to take the kids if you don't feel up to it