My rules or their rules?

[lessthanBeau]

Going on holiday over Easter, taking dn with us. We also have a DD, both girls are 8. Dn wears full face of makeup on days out and weekends at home, Aibu to say no make-up on holiday with us, even though her parents are fine with it? My own DD has no interest in it so not worried about DNS influence, however, I absolutely hate to see it, and I know other parents are looking and judging just like I am. I don't mind a little bit of mascara or eyeliner for her if we were eating out or at a disco but not during the day at theme parks etc. Also I don't want to be responsible for her getting it on and off her face, or having it rubbed into any of my caravan soft furnishing or bedding!
However she's not my child, dn won't kick up a fuss if I say no, but will tell parents that I didn't allow it. I don't want to be a meanie about it, wwyd?

You can't let makeup go in a pool.

Just say No. No, Dn, you are not wearing make up, because I Said So.

Surely the point is that 8 year olds look completely ridiculous in make up.

I wouldn't allow my DD to even wear it for her dancing show.

I'm with the earlier poster who mentioned safeguarding red flags and alarm bells with precocious sexualisation of very young girls. Unless it's cultural - traveller girls often wear make up from a young age.

Very sad IMO as parents goodness knows what they are thinking allowing this other than in the house or for an occasional special occasion. A couple of girls in year 7 age 11/12 started secondary school wearing over the top make up it and they looked ridiculous I don't know what either they or their parents were thinking. I think they were both trying to look pretty and grown up but they just ended up looking ridiculous.

WTF? So if I wear make-up, wear a thong, drink wine and drive a car I should let my 8 year old niece do the same so as not to be a hypocrite? Now I've heard it all! *

but alcohol is dangerous to an 8 yo, as is driving. wearing a thong or plastering your face in makeup is no more or less dangerous to an 8 yo than an adult woman.

If you think an 8 yo shouldn't need to wear make up, that she shouldn't feel the need to hide her natural appearance, that she should feel confident in her own skin and she shouldn't feel pressurized to appear sexualized or attractive to men, then YES I agree. But all that applies to adult women too.....hence its hypocritical to wear full makeup while saying an 8 yo shouldn't.

8 year olds don't need to be wearing makeup. Like some PP, I'd be embarrassed to be seen in public with a young child wearing makeup, lest people think I'd okayed it.

Just say 'no'. Don't give her time in the morning/before going out to faff about putting it on either. Better yet, tell her parents it's not even allowed to be sent along with DN.

Does her mum or older siblings wear a lot of make up? The only young child I know who does (though she's 10) is the youngest of 6 girls and lives in a house full of make up and hair straighteners.

Pressed send too soon...

Where are you going in holiday? I'd be using the sunscreen reasoning - no make up in the day as sunscreen is needed.