To forgive another strange lie

[NinaBiina]

My boyfriend of 8 months has been lying to me about his age-I'm in my early 20's and he told me he was 30. We met through work, the age gap had never bothered me, I don't actually notice it. He left his passport at mine after stopping by on the way home from the airport-I flicked it open and discovered he's been lying about the year he was born (he's actually 31) and the date (which I really don't understand) I.e said he was born in May but actually August? He's told me a few silly lies before about past relationships, his parents etc-and is very apologetic and admits he was an idiot for doing so. Am I being a fool to continue to see someone who seems to find lying so easy?

How odd. Year or years knocked off from vanity yes I have heard of people doing so, but altering a birth month? No.

Frankly I would want to trust a boyfriend with stuff not have to wonder what's true and what isn't.
It will range from the mundane to serious.
Is he distancing himself from a shady past?

Normally I would say it sounds dodgy and he's going to lie about other things as well but my dh told me he was 29 when we first met and it wasn't until I saw his passport 6 months later that I found out he was 31. I was bemused as to why he would lie about his age and he said that he thought I would be put off dating someone in their 30s (I was only 24). Anyway, he's been entirely trustworthy the entire 12 years I've been with him and not lied about anything else so it isn't always a warning sign. I still think it's weird to lie about your age though.

I wouldn't have ben concerned about the age change ( 1 year) but saying his birthday is a different month seems a bit strange.

The years difference in his age wouldn't bother me too much, but to change your birthday is frankly beyond weird? What does he need to do it for? I'd run a mile tbh.

Could he have made a mistake?!?! My mum never knows how old she is ("I'm 38. Wait. Am I? I was born in 76? Oh 39. No!! 40!!") 30 and 31 isn't like it's a huge gap so what's the point in lying about it?!

If this was just a case of giving you the wrong age, I'd agree with PP that it's nothing to worry about probably just a genuine mistake, but you seem to suggest he's lied about a lot of other small things too?

Meekonsandwich the thing with a compulsive liar is that the lies they tell often are completely pointless and make no sense. (I suspect even to them.)

I know someone who was definitely 3 years above me at both primary and secondary school. They are now 2 years younger than me. I honestly don't think that their DH knows.