If you could......

[ifyoucould]

If you could change anything about your life right now what would it be and why?

Or if you had your life over again, knowing what you did now, what would you do differently?

Me, I would not be with my partner. He is a lovely man and wonderful father but I can honestly say I have never been in love with him.

I was a late bloomer, didn't have my first kiss until 16 and that was atrocious! I was painfully shy but I was actually quite a pretty thing and I'd had a fair few offers of boyfriends but due to being so shy I never followed anything. I did get a boyfriend at 17 and ten years and a baby later we are very happy but my regret is not having the confidence to play the field before we got together. I know he had some girlfriends before we got together and I wish I had too, never mind!

Gosh, loads of things:

• Persevered with learning to drive. I nearly passed at 17/18, decided I couldn't do it, and took 25 years to get back to it.

• Appreciated my parents more when they were alive. They died when I was in my early 20s. I never expected to lose them so young.

• Kept in touch with a close friend. She was my best friend in my 20s, but we drifted apart when our DC were babies. I always meant to get in touch. She died last year, I hadn't spoken to her for 17 years. I still thought of her very often, can't believe she's gone and I'll never have that chance to speak to her again

• There are others around following a different career path, not staying with my Ex when he first showed his true abusive nature, making better financial decisions, moving house, playing the whole OD game differently when I was a singleton. But if I'd gone down a different career or relationship path, I wouldn't be where I am now, and I wouldn't want to change that really.

Actually PLANNING a family rather than assuming it would happen.

Waking up to reality before I hit 40.

I would have had my DD a bit later on in life so I could pursue my career.

I am doing so now but feel I am held back.