To be annoyed at school over this?

[OnALosingSpree]

Primary school had a bake sale for St Patrick's day. DD (8) saw some really elaborate cupcakes last month and asked if we could make them. I ended up buying guide a lot of things to make them (lots more than the 50p per cake they sell them for ) but she really wanted to make them for her friends to buy.

We made them and they looked awesome. She was so excited taking them in and the teachers were really impressed. All the kids were telling DD they were definitely buying guide one of her cakes! She was really proud.

So there was an assembly and parent thing in the morning. I couldn't attend so exH went.

My cakes were given to the parents! And teachers! They all ate them at the 'gathering' after the assembly.

AIBU to be annoyed that I spent about 4 hours making cakes for DDs friends for them to be eaten by teachers and parents and the kids not get a chance to have one?!

Also I sent the cakes in 2 plastic cake carriers and they lost the lid!

[budgiegirl]

As long as the teachers and parents paid for them, then I don't see a problem with it. You can't dictate who should buy which cake.

If they didn't pay, then that's totally out of order. You didn't make those cakes as a present to the teachers, you made them as a charity donation.

I'd be a bit frustrated by the loss of the lid, but I have learned not to send anything like that into school, or at least to label it with a big sticker with my child's name on it.

[bloodyfuming9]

FFS Get a grip!
Your cakes would have been paid for by the parents, teachers or the Head.
Even if they'd have made it to the main table after school at the sale, the chances of her specific chosen few DC actually getting one was absolutely minimal- it all depends on which classes come out first, and how quick the kids and the parents are to get to the table. Then there's the scrum of people waiting to get near enough to the table to choose....
Can you tell I used to be a cake sale organiser?
Why not make another batch sometime and have a tea party after school at home or in the local park?

[BeingATwatItsABingThing]

It's all impossible to say if YABU until you come back and tell us if they paid OP.

[SheldonsSpot]

You'll have to check first that everyone who had a cake made a donation to the charity. If not then I'd call them out on it, greedy bastards.

[Berthatydfil]

It's not out of order for you to check that as the cakes didn't make it to the sale that they still contributed to the charity funds.
Also I'd be very cross about the lid of the cake carrier and would specifically ask nag them to look out for it for a few days and then ask them to buy me a new one.

[SallyAlbrightsCollegeRoomate]

Good grief, you donated cupcakes to the school. They got eaten (and I'll be amazed if the teachers didn't make a donation). What did you expect, your daughter to be able to parade about handing out her cupcakes only to her friends?

[Fairenuff]

I don't understand how you thought your dd's friends would be the only ones to eat them though?

How many did you make? I would have thought that there was a good chance they would sell out quick anyway, so whichever class went first could easily have bought them all before your dd and her friends got there.

I'm also certain the staff would have paid for the cakes. Staff always pay for MUFTI/Dress up days, etc. They donate items too. They often personally buy the ingredients for their whole class to bake for cake sales, etc.

[SuperPug]

I think it's off- if something comes in for a bake sale, it's not mine to eat. It's there to be sold to pupils or teachers for charity.

[SnugglyBedSocks]

My issue would be that they were sent in for the bake sale NOT for the assembly.

Were the parents charged for them?

[Jaxhog]

It's not about teachers, it's about the fact the cakes were meant for a bake sale for everyone, including kids!

At the very least, parents and teachers should have paid for them. Please tell me they did at least do that? But it's very rude not to have saved some for your DD to sell to friends, as they've deprived her of that pleasure. Which was the point. Was she even given a choice?

[Ohyesiam]

I suppose that once you've given them away, the school can do what they want with them.
Maybe she can do the same at her next birthday party, for her friend to enjoy.

[LuxCoDespondent]

Just make some more, and give them to the children directly. You should be pleased that the teachers obviously thought your cakes were the best, otherwise they wouldn't have taken them. Also, perhaps the teachers made a donation for the cakes before they took them?

[switswoo81]

We always have a box on the table of the staff room if we want to take cakes to pay a euro. I always throw in a couple of extra euro to bring one home for dh and dd. I also throw in money for kids that wouldn't have money for cakes. Would always be the same parents cakes that end up there so be honoured!

[elodie2000]

I'm a teacher and YANBU at all.
You made the cakes for the children to buy in their cake sale.
You didn't make them for a load of other mums and their teachers.
I hate it when adults cream off the best for themselves because then can and/or because 'the children won't notice'.
Children do notice and all it does is teach them that some adults are selfish w**kers.

[MooCahnt]

Get a grip. It was your choice to make fancy cakes. Teachers spend their own money to improve your kids school experience. Bloody hell.

[switswoo81]

Also after years of cake sales I have discovered rice Krispy buns are the biggest draw for children. That's all I ever make for cake sales nothing fancy

[elodie2000]

Moo The cakes were made for the cake sale not foran 'after assembly parent teacher coffee morning.'
It doesn't matter if the cakes had been rice crispie cakes or handmade made by Fiona Cairns herself. The principle is the same.

[Wellitwouldbenice]

If they paid, was it just a case of your cakes being sold first (because they were so amazing)? In which case, there were two cake sales, one for staff/parents then the one for the children. That's fine isn't it? They wouldn't have any idea about her daughter hoping her friends would buy them...

[MiddleClassProblem]

I know, it's like any post you put on MN must mean your having an absolute meltdown about something rather than a frustrated moan.

[BhajiAllTheWay]

That would annoy me. I really hope they paid..

[MiddleClassProblem]

I should say more AIBU than MN

[PigletWasPoohsFriend]

As long as the teachers and parents paid for them, then I don't see a problem with it. You can't dictate who should buy which cake.

^ This.

As long as they were paid for you can't dictate who can or can't buy them

[GreatFuckability]

has it occured to anyone that there might have a been a mix up??? jesus, people are so quick to assume the worst of everyone.