To be annoyed at school over this?

[OnALosingSpree]

Primary school had a bake sale for St Patrick's day. DD (8) saw some really elaborate cupcakes last month and asked if we could make them. I ended up buying guide a lot of things to make them (lots more than the 50p per cake they sell them for ) but she really wanted to make them for her friends to buy.

We made them and they looked awesome. She was so excited taking them in and the teachers were really impressed. All the kids were telling DD they were definitely buying guide one of her cakes! She was really proud.

So there was an assembly and parent thing in the morning. I couldn't attend so exH went.

My cakes were given to the parents! And teachers! They all ate them at the 'gathering' after the assembly.

AIBU to be annoyed that I spent about 4 hours making cakes for DDs friends for them to be eaten by teachers and parents and the kids not get a chance to have one?!

Also I sent the cakes in 2 plastic cake carriers and they lost the lid!

[LittleIda]

Yes what does "buying guide" mean?

[BackforGood]

YABU and a bit ridiculous.
If you donate cakes to a cake sale, you can't dictate that only certain people can buy them.
If it raised money for the charity, it doesnt matter who buys them.

Oh, and tip for the future. When sending cakes into school (or any other cake sale), send them in an old chocolates tin and not your best tupperware.

[theSnuffster]

This could potentially happen at our school, and totally innocently. They do a cake sale for Macmillan- starting with a coffee morning so parents etc can pay to come in after dropping their children off for coffee and a cake. Some parents buy a few cakes to take some home too. The 'best' cakes could all be taken at this coffee morning. Next, the children come in to buy a cake each. So a child could easily come in looking for their own cakes to find they're all gone already or even that they haven't been out out yet (as there's not space for everything to be laid out on the tables, so some are kept behind to refill spaces as things sell.) Then any cakes leftover are sold at the end of the day.

[SanitysSake]

I'd be trying to find out if they paid for them.. after all.. charity was the whole point of the sale, wasn't it? If they hadn't, I would be more than a bit annoyed. It's presumptuous.

[Katinkka]

Yanbu. Very selfish of the teachers to take the nicest cakes for their meeting which you had made for the sale! I'm livid on your behalf. It's irrelevant whether they paid for them or not; the cakes were made to be put up for sale to the public!

[viques]

you are to be congratulated, clearly the staff of your daughter's school have observed your clean and orderly habits, your daughters exemplary use of a tissue, her hand washing techniques and lack of nits. You have met the important Staffroom Health And Safety (Baking Division) Criteria and food produced and donated from your home is deemed safe. You should ask the office for the five star "score on the door" sticker for your kitchen door.

[GreatFuckability]

has it occured to anyone that there might have a been a mix up??? jesus, people are so quick to assume the worst of everyone.

[PigletWasPoohsFriend]

As long as the teachers and parents paid for them, then I don't see a problem with it. You can't dictate who should buy which cake.

^ This.

As long as they were paid for you can't dictate who can or can't buy them

[MiddleClassProblem]

I should say more AIBU than MN

[BhajiAllTheWay]

That would annoy me. I really hope they paid..

[MiddleClassProblem]

I know, it's like any post you put on MN must mean your having an absolute meltdown about something rather than a frustrated moan.

[Wellitwouldbenice]

If they paid, was it just a case of your cakes being sold first (because they were so amazing)? In which case, there were two cake sales, one for staff/parents then the one for the children. That's fine isn't it? They wouldn't have any idea about her daughter hoping her friends would buy them...

[elodie2000]

Moo The cakes were made for the cake sale not foran 'after assembly parent teacher coffee morning.'
It doesn't matter if the cakes had been rice crispie cakes or handmade made by Fiona Cairns herself. The principle is the same.

[switswoo81]

Also after years of cake sales I have discovered rice Krispy buns are the biggest draw for children. That's all I ever make for cake sales nothing fancy

[MooCahnt]

Get a grip. It was your choice to make fancy cakes. Teachers spend their own money to improve your kids school experience. Bloody hell.

[elodie2000]

I'm a teacher and YANBU at all.
You made the cakes for the children to buy in their cake sale.
You didn't make them for a load of other mums and their teachers.
I hate it when adults cream off the best for themselves because then can and/or because 'the children won't notice'.
Children do notice and all it does is teach them that some adults are selfish w**kers.

[switswoo81]

We always have a box on the table of the staff room if we want to take cakes to pay a euro. I always throw in a couple of extra euro to bring one home for dh and dd. I also throw in money for kids that wouldn't have money for cakes. Would always be the same parents cakes that end up there so be honoured!

[LuxCoDespondent]

Just make some more, and give them to the children directly. You should be pleased that the teachers obviously thought your cakes were the best, otherwise they wouldn't have taken them. Also, perhaps the teachers made a donation for the cakes before they took them?

[Ohyesiam]

I suppose that once you've given them away, the school can do what they want with them.
Maybe she can do the same at her next birthday party, for her friend to enjoy.

[Jaxhog]

It's not about teachers, it's about the fact the cakes were meant for a bake sale for everyone, including kids!

At the very least, parents and teachers should have paid for them. Please tell me they did at least do that? But it's very rude not to have saved some for your DD to sell to friends, as they've deprived her of that pleasure. Which was the point. Was she even given a choice?

[SnugglyBedSocks]

My issue would be that they were sent in for the bake sale NOT for the assembly.

Were the parents charged for them?

[SuperPug]

I think it's off- if something comes in for a bake sale, it's not mine to eat. It's there to be sold to pupils or teachers for charity.

[Fairenuff]

I don't understand how you thought your dd's friends would be the only ones to eat them though?

How many did you make? I would have thought that there was a good chance they would sell out quick anyway, so whichever class went first could easily have bought them all before your dd and her friends got there.

I'm also certain the staff would have paid for the cakes. Staff always pay for MUFTI/Dress up days, etc. They donate items too. They often personally buy the ingredients for their whole class to bake for cake sales, etc.