AIBU to think its normal to

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Open each others post? I think its fine to open DHs post and vice versa. He is not comfortable with it so I won't do it. So do you open each others post?

I wouldn't dream of doing this. Isn't it actually illegal?!

We have gone paperless with all the utility bills, banks etc so there isn't much that isn't junk mail. We each travel, so open each others when they are away and scan/photo/email anything important.

Not obviously personal things, like cards, or anything hand addressed, obvs.

Yes both do it, I only tend to if it looks interesting. Only time we aren't allowed is if presents are coming in the post.

I wouldn't open anything that looked personal, like a card or something handwritten, but bills are usually felt with by whoever picks them up

We open each other's post and read each other's email/facebook. We would only do it if I needed to actually find something out (it's too boring to read otherwise). We're both completely open with each other but I still wouldn't invade the privacy of one of his friends or relations by reading a message that was clearly only meant to be read by him.

I don't do it and I wouldn't be pleased if he did it to me. Nothing to hide and I literally get no interesting post, just bills and things, but that's not the point. I would be furious if he read my emails and texts too - again, nothing to hide, but I should be allowed my privacy and so should he.

That's also a good point re. texts and emails - you might be fine with invading your partners privacy, but you're also invading the privacy of the person who sent them the message. I would hate to think that my friends partners are reading messages that I send which are not intended for them. Again, nothing to hide blah blah blah, but that's not the point.

Yabu. It's an infringement of privacy. Sooner or later one of you will open something you wish you hadn't and it will all kick off! I would ditto this to emails and online bank balances.

I open DH's because he's crap at admin and it would sit unopened otherwise. I deal with all finances and household stuff so it's usually more useful to me anyway. I open it and file it, or pass it over to him if necessary.

No and it never occurred to me that I should. The only thing he opens belonging to me is the tesco clubcard statement!

Not normal nope.

Either of us open anything that's obviously a water bill, tv licence stuff, bank statement, council tax, whatever. Anything related to shared financial responsibility basically. I've no idea whose name is on half of them, I suspect some are mine and some are DH. If it's to do with our shared finances then we're both privy to it.

Anything else, no, although neither of us would lose our reason if it happened by accident. DC3 thinks that she can open everything as soon as it comes through the letterbox anyway so it's all a bit academic in our house.

No post opening here. Our wallets and bags (his day rucksack and my handbags) are also off limits. We have no secrets and frequently I'll have a letter thrust under my nose asking for my thoughts/help but we both think basic privacy should be respected.

No we don't usually unless DH is on nights and then I'll tell him he has a letter and he usually asks me to open it. It wouldn't bother either of us if the other did open stuff but we just don't.

I open my DHs post as he doesn't open it, and it either needs dealing with or chucking in the bin.

I think he would prefer that I didn't open it, but someone's got to keep on top of all the life admin!

No, he doesn't care but I do. We don't open each other's post.

I do because it wouldn't get opened and dealt with otherwise, and I do all admin. He really doesn't give two hoots!

Not fine at all YABU

No we don't. Wouldn't occur to me do do it.

Occasionally if he is waiting for something hell say if x arrives can you open it, but otherwise no.

90% of what we get in the post is either junk (straight in the shredder) or relates to household admin. Whoever walks past the doormat first opens it all and deals with it. Bills etc. might have only one of our names on, but they are paid for jointly.

The only things we won't open if they're addressed to the other one are handwritten envelopes. Just a kind of unspoken rule I guess. They are more personal. I love getting letters and although I wouldn't be bothered if DH read anything of mine, I would be really annoyed to miss out on opening it myself. It's a bit like someone else unwrapping your birthday present. I also think it's respectful to the person who has written to you. They deserve to have their privacy observed too.

We open each others and neither of us care.

No it's not usual. Open your own post.