AIBU to think its normal to

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Open each others post? I think its fine to open DHs post and vice versa. He is not comfortable with it so I won't do it. So do you open each others post?

I open DH's post when he's away, unless it's just a bank statement or something. When he's home though we'd tell the other that there was a letter for them, we might then ask the other person to open it for us but we wouldn't just open it automatically without permission. I wouldn't be bothered in the slightest if he did but there's just no need to? He obviously has to read the letter anyway so I haven't saved him any time if I open it and read it first.

I don't think I would but that's because I can't remember the last time a situation came up where it would be necessary. We're a pretty paperless household.

We would turn each others phones over and call out the first bit of a message (the bit showing on the locked home screen). "Jane said something about lunch. Want me to reply?" type stuff. We have 100% shared finances and know each others passwords to email etc.

I don't see why post would be any different.

I love opening post, DH leaves it for me to open!

Not as a rule. Sometimes if one isat home and the other phones might say you've got a letter from x, do you want me to open it, but never without asking.

I sometimes open obviously general joint household stuff in DH's name just so I can get it dealt with and filed (gas bill etc), plus junk mail. I leave anything that I don't recognise and packages for him to open.

I open DH post if I think it's important, or if I can actually be bothered, and he'll open mine if he thinks it's important. No reason to keep each other's post a secret if you live together

We don't, no need to.

No we don't open each others. I generally don't think I'd mind if my partner opened mine, but we just never have. I wouldn't open hers if she didn't ask me too.

No. It's mine. We don't know each other's phone/email passwords either.

Never open his post. Never touch it. Then i can't be blamed if it goes missing

No. That would be a real invasion of privacy.
If it were meant for both of you, it would be addressed to both of you.

we do, but majority of the time a letter addressed to one of us normally involves both of us or we'll have talked about it before hand so we know what is in the letter anyway. The only thing i dont read is if the letter has his naval base address on it because sometimes im not allowed to know where he is on training etc

I don't remember opening any of DPs post over the last 30 years. He once opened a letter of mine by mistake and was very apologetic, even though it was nothing. I tend to leave anything addressed to the both of us for him to open, it's more than likely a bill:)

No reason to feel worried or edgy if there is nothing to hide or be worried about a partner seeing

My husband and I open each other's post, we have never actually discussed it, but just do. We share bank accounts, mortgage, car, child, insurance, tv, broadband etc.. so the majority of post applies to us both.

We just tend to warn each other of upcoming parcels we don't want each other to open for birthdays etc.

We don't do it, I think it's rude. Not your name not your business.

Nope. Neither of us open post intended for the other, nor do we read texts/emails/swap devices/share laptops. Never had to institute rules; it's how we both are.

We won't even grab anything from the other's bag.

Open the post?

What is this ritual of which you speak?

I do, but only the boring stuff. Anything that looks interesting or personal I'll tell him it's waiting for him.

I don't have a huge interest in doing this, but it just used to build up, unopened and would drive me nuts. Most of it guess straight in the recycling, so it's cleared in 30 seconds.

I often open his. He wouldn't open mine. Mainly because I do all our household and business filing.

Sometimes with prior agreement. I,like opening my own post but my husband is less bothered. He has a tendency to open what comes through letterbox and has had to be retrained to allow people to open their own. We open adult children's post sometimes if it's delivered here and they agree.

I open all dh post as I don't work and so look after everything to do with household - paying cc bills, filing any important stuff.
I never snoop at his statements or anything just make sure everything is paid!

No, we don't open each other's mail, I also feel it's an invasion of privacy and neither of us opens our daughters nor she ours.

The only exception I make is if it's a bill, if it's got Calor across the top or whatever, then yes, whomever gets it deals with it. But anything that's not effectively joint we wouldn't open.

The fact he is uncomfortable with it then you are right not to continue to do it, it would be wrong.

I'd be very upset if my partner did this. He'd be furious if I did. I think it would pretty well be a deal-breaker for both of us.

I do it all the time. 90% of stuff addressed to him is actually something mutual, usually a bill or a tax reminder. Rest of it is normal obvious what it is, if I really don't know I might leave it. He's very happy with it, it means he doesn't have to deal with the admin! But then his email comes to our shared PC as well as his mobile; his attitude is very much "I don't have any secrets from you so I don't really care".