DP gave me back a load of cake tins that he had in his workshop the other day and today I decided to make him a cake.
He came to collect it and said FFS you haven't bothered washing out the cake tin then?
Took the cake stormed off then sent me a message to say don't bother coming over to his tonight and he will sort him and his DC out himself for tea.
Rang him and he ranted down the phone at me saying it was completely unacceptable to give him a cake in a tin that hadn't been washed out thoroughly and that not to make him any more cakes in the future and quite frankly I can shove this cake up my arse because he doesn't want it and how dare I just shrug off the fact that I hadn't washed it out then put the phone down on me...
Bit of a back story so not to drip:
DP is a farmer - I have only ever seen him clean in the morning or late at night after a shower/bath as all through the day he is either covered in grease/mud/handling animals all day etc
His shed is just as bad where he fixes his tractors and things and he will eat his food without washing his hands - I made a deal out of it when we first met telling him it was really unhygienic but he made a big song and dance about how he would be washing his hands 100 times a day and he's never died from eating with dirty hands etc etc and in the 5 years we've been together he's never been any different - his jeep is a mess and filthy dirty inside and he just doesn't seem to worry too much about it all as he's always so busy.
The cake tins he brought back were not dirty inside at all, the outsides were a bit dusty but not the insides - yes ok I should have washed them out inside and if he weren't taking them back to the farm I would have but I just thought well he doesn't care and really didn't think he would make this much of a big deal out of it.
So I'm sat here feeling sorry for myself, especially as I was told to shove it up my arse. I did apologise for not washing it but that's not good enough.
He's really stressed out at the moment and I have an ongoing illness that's being investigated which means I'm in pain all day, everyday and we can't and haven't been intimate for 6 months now which doesn't help.