Insisting ds takes medicine from chemist

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Ds has a bit of a nasty cough so have gave him the medicine we were given by pharmacy. It's his night to go to his dads so told ex I would send medicine in. He replied he will just get him medicine. I insisted he takes what he has been used to. Been made to feel iabu am I?

Anne I'm talking about prescribed medicine, not over the counter liquid paracetamol!

It's only a pharmacy over the counter medicine then?

Non issue. You can certainly say this is what he's using, and he takes it for me but to insist is not the hill to die on.

OP I think this hinges on what the medicine is, and whether or not it's an actual prescription medication or not.

Cough medicines don't do much anyway, it's not like an antibiotic or anything

Op. Is it a prescription medicine the doctor prescribed, or is it a medicine you bought from the pharmacy?

Why don't you ask your ex to put the welfare of his DS first and his own sorry arse last? Parenting DS should not be a competitive sport.

Having said that I really don't think that some men have child safety anywhere near as high on their radar as mothers.

Yes it is one given by the pharmacy which I much prefer rather than tixylix or the like that are quite sugary I expect?

Given over the counter cough medicines are basically just a mix of ingredients to soothe rather than anything to actively treat then it's a non issue really.

Cough syrups are just sugary liquids which have been proven to do little, if anything ,to help coughs anyway!

Ok. In that case. Quite honestly it makes feck all difference. It's only an over the counter medicine and he's being more than reasonable to have one at his house and quite responsible actually.

But was it actually prescribed by a Doctor, or did you just go into the pharmacy and say "DS has a cough, what should I buy"?

Op is being controlling.
This is cough medicine , it wont make any difference to her ds what brand he has.

Unless its prescribed by a doctor whatever your ex buys will be pretty identical to whatever you've currently got.

In that case OP, while he is being a dick because it's really nothing to be uncooperative over, I wouldn't waste your time worrying about it. Let him be a dick, don't let him pull you in to an argument over it. Send the medicine with your DS and let him know it's in the bag if he wants to use it.

Sugar is a common ingredient in most medications including prescribed ones. Mary Poppins wasn't a total idiot. It's in very small doses, it's not like he's drinking a litre of Coca Cola. A bit of sugar can make you feel a lot better when you've got a cough or a cold.

I wouldn't send yours in case he decides to use both, as he's a dick.

He's said he'll get some, it's annoying and stupid, but not a lot you can do, though I don't think YABU.

There is no real evidence for over the counter cough medicines so I really wouldn't worry. And it is not a medicine that needs to build up etc to a level in his system.

Yabu, cough medicine is placebo. Swapping one placebo for another will make no difference, or his dad can save the money.

I think you might have bigger battles to fight.

Cough medicine will just soothe his throat and be a bit of a placebo to all around - it won't cure his cough
It theb doesn't matter what your ex gives him and if your ds refuses it then it is your ex who has to deal with it
Keep your medicine at home and save the arguments for somehing more serious

Cough medicine doesn't work anyway, they're all the same so it doesn't matter. That said it does sound like your ex is just being difficult. Unless what he actually said was that he'd get one for his house in which case yabu.

I'm now intrigued as to what you "put your foot down" over with regard to bedtime routine

It sounds like he's being a dick just because he can. Ugh! That said, I doubt a change will make any difference.

I wouldn't worry, cough medicine works just as well as a cup of tea or glass of water. Neither cough suppressants nor expectorants really work.

Oh, I see fatmummy87 already said that. Ignore me .

Cough medicine is "all placebo"? Um, okay. Perhaps if you buy it over the counter. Pharmacy is different. At least in Germany, effective medicine is sold only in pharmacies, though they are allowed to sell it without prescription.

But this is not about the medicine, is it? It is about ex being difficult.

Every normal person would be happy to just be given the medicine that is currently used and not having to buy extra. (Especially since only this one bottle might be used up and it could be years before anyone else in the family has a cough.)

Cough medicines for children in the UK are basically sugar syrup!