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Long story short, DH is turning into a bit of a knob, and I've been letting it happen.
He's always been stroppy, but previously I'd just tell him to sort himself out, and leave him to it. (He'd soon pep up and skulk back with an apology and it was easy and very rare).
Recently however he's become a bit of a bellend. (I probably haven't helped as I've been pandering to him etc.) But I've realised he stops talking to me for Really mundane things. (He doesn't really work, doing a few hours a week at an organic farm shop, so isn't under much stress and I work in mental health, so can find it stressful fitting everything in.)
He threw a wobbly in M&S the other week, and didn't speak to me for 24 hours because I was running through my "to do list" out loud and it was "stressing him out"(potentially in guilt as I'm busier than him, and maybe he feels lazy?) , leading him to tell me to "fuck off" because I was "really pissing him off"
There have been a few occasions where I've felt small and degraded, and sometimes really nervous, like I've really had to watch myself with DH, almost like I'm trying to second guess him, which is a massive PITA, because anything can set him off, (and I mean anything, me doing the dishes, me not doing the dishes, me not letting him drive MY car, me not feeling hungry at the same time as him, me wanting a glass of wine, the list goes on) 
he's starting to make me think he's a little unhinged
I would like to point out, It's more often than not absolutely fine and normal, that he's not a twat all the time and that our relationship on the whole is as it has always been. But I'm concerned that this is the begining of a slippery slope. And recently we have have seen a few mumsnetters living their whole lives like this and becoming shadows of their former selves.
So AIBU to think that after being a massive tired submissive weakling for the past eighteen months I can kick this twat into touch, or am I at risk of thinking I can change him and getting stuck forever!
THANKS.