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to be slightly miffed by this teacher's comment?

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kittywaitsfornumber6 · 05/03/2007 13:20

ok. ds2 (7) is somewhat disinterested in working at school. Lots of boys are and I have chosen not to keep nagging him about it. I have discussed it with his teacher and she says he won't work unless forced to.
Anyway, I had a quick chat with her this morning as he wasn't feeling 100%.
ME: he wants you to know that's he's not feeling that good and will be very slow today
TEACHER: Like a usual day then ( or words to that effect)
ME. Even slower then, best to expect nothing.

Anyway, I've come away feeling miffed. Would any of you feel miffed?

OP posts:
Thepeopleversuswork · 11/11/2022 08:27

I think it is slightly unprofessional and it would have ticked me off a bit…

But honestly after inwardly sulking a bit I would have picked myself up and thought “what do I need to do to address this?”.

I can understand your desire not to terrorise him about work but I think telling the teacher he was not 100% and wanted to take it slowly was bound to irritate her. It feels like you’re asking for him to be let off the hook and it sends a signal that you’re not highly motivated on his behalf and prepared to accept fairly lame excuses, which would explain (in her mind) his lack of motivation.

I imagine at some level she is thinking “no wonder he doesn’t pull his finger out”.

Unfair maybe but that’s my guess.

Brefugee · 11/11/2022 08:31

but this is a zombie where i REALLY want to see if OP is in the Teenager or Young Adult section moaning about how her DS treats home like a hotel, doesn't pick up after himself, flunked his A-levels, has no job etc etc. Or if he bucked his ideas up

OP WHERE ARE YOU?

Lightningfast · 11/11/2022 08:33

VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/03/2007 13:25

Well, if the parent is giving the child a "get out" of working hard, why should the teacher waste her energy?

This

VickyEadieofThigh · 11/11/2022 08:42

Brefugee · 11/11/2022 08:31

but this is a zombie where i REALLY want to see if OP is in the Teenager or Young Adult section moaning about how her DS treats home like a hotel, doesn't pick up after himself, flunked his A-levels, has no job etc etc. Or if he bucked his ideas up

OP WHERE ARE YOU?

Yes, he's 22 now!

Butchyrestingface · 11/11/2022 08:43

How’s your 22-23 year old getting on now, OP? 😀

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