To think 18 yo should expect me to pamper them when they're ill?

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"Mum, I want a hot water bottle/a cold drink/some medicine/socks......" 18!!

AIBU?

Really OP? I do that for DH and he does it for me and we will both continue to do it for our DC as they get older. It's called caring for the people you love.

I've been unwell for quite a few months now so I've had to take some time off in the last number of weeks and my mum has been here daily bringing me magazines, drinks etc, making me water bottles, tidying up and to be honest her presence makes me feel better because all I ever want when I'm sick is my mum.

I'm in my early 30's and I don't think it's unreasonable for a mum (parent) to want to look after her "child" during illness. I might be an adult but in my mum's eyes I'm still her baby and that's just the way it is. I think you're being unreasonable complaining about your 18 year old, he/she wants you and I think that's lovely!

I can understand your frustration OP, but I'm 30 and ill in bed with flu and all I want right now is my mum

I would throw them out of the house.

God I did all that for my mum the last time she was ill! She'd do it for me, too. It's just what you do isn't it?

I am 24 with a child of my own and still call my mum when I am really ill

She comes with medicine, orange juice, magazine and flowers and takes ds for a few hours if dh is at work. My dh will also bring me drinks and medicine if I am ill. Most want looking after when they are ill.

DS is only 2, but at the moment I can't imagine refusing to pamper him at any age, if he's ill. My mum would always pamper me even in my early 20s!

If someone is unwell, it's the illness that prevents them from getting up and about, not their age.

Absolutely an 18 year old needs mothering when unwell - unless just a cold. I've fetched mine from university if they've had a nasty case of tonsillitis. I've had my 24 year old home on the sofa with labyrinthitis and happily run around after them.

YABU but she should do the same for you when you're ill.

"Mum I want a drink". Does she not say please?

I would. It ain't pampering if they are poorly. A bit of TLC can give a bit of help to any meds they have to take. Quicker recovery.

depends how ill they were for me. someone with a bit of a cold sitting round whinging would get short thrift from me.

Eh? Of course YABU. You always want pampering and your mum when you're ill.

My mum stay for a couple of days this week after I came out of hospital and was running around my flat doing washing/ getting me food and drinks/ generally looking after me. My dads coming this weekend to see me and will probably do the same. I'd do the same for them and dp if they're ill, it's nice to be looked after when you're feeling crap.

Yabu. My mum huffed because i asked her to bring me in a cup of tea when pregnant i was a bit hurt that my mum doesnt want to look after me, which i know is ridiculous

YABU my DP looks after me when I'm ill and I'm in my late twenties. And last time I had a stomach bug my mum brought medicine over for me.

I'm 32 and if I'm ill my dad comes round and makes lunch/plays with the DD's etc to give me a break. And DH would bring me medicine/hot water bottles/whatever food/drink I fancied. That's what you do for people you love, however old they are!

That's just looking after and I'd do it for any close family member whatever the age .. certainly my dc!

I fondly remember my dad going to the shops to get me soft toilet paper when I had the stomach flu in my 30s. I said 'please' though.

Even though your an adult, its still nice to feel that somebody cares. Sometimes when I am ill, I just want to be looked after.

Think hiow much money the NHS would save if it got rid of all those pampering staff!

Ah I care for all mine when they're ill. If they needed to ask for something they say please though but generally it's all there within reach so no asking needed.

I don't want my mother when I'm ill though. I just want to be left alone.

When I was 21 I was living abroad (part of my uni course) and had a stomach bug. My dad flew over when he finished work on Friday night to look after me.