To want to put a padlock on her bloody mouth

[DerFlabberghast]

So, my mother has a friend, quite an old fashioned French lady, who is always sniping about everyone's eating habits, she herself is rail thin.
This lunchtime she declined most of the food offered in a very snooty way because roast potatoes are 'something fat girls eat' (!!!!) and told me off for snacking (it was bloody fruit!) and suggested that 'if I was a slave to such habits I should think about putting a padlock on the fridge'

I have put on bout a stone after getting out of rehab and am a healthy size 12. WIBU to tell the miserable putain to shag off.

She also told me (sorry for the double post I'm raging) that I used to be 'so nice and slim before' yes I was because I WAS ON DRUGS YOU GALLOPING BAGGAGE

Doesn't sound like a friend, I couldn't say that kind of thing to a friend's daughter or anyone else. None of her business what you eat and shouldn't be saying it at all if she's the guest. No idea why she thought you made a habit of it and if she thinks size 12 is large then wtf

Does your mum's friend actually know that you have been preoccupied with the small matter of beating an addiction?!

You need to learn the French for kiss my ass fuck face .

You would only be unreasonable if you did NOT tell her to shag off!!

Putain lol

Congrats on rehab by the way!!

Tais toi!

Tell her to stick it up her skinny cul.

stupid woman, perhaps you should tell her exactly why you were "so nice and slim" give her a shock or get your mother to tell her not to be so rude you don't need that sort of comment after rehab, well done by the way.

What a horrible life she must lead never eating roast potatoes, no wonder she's a miserable arsehole.

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" Peut-être c'est parce que là, tu me gaves, grave!"

I was when I was working in France when women came back to the office from maternity leave. They would ask straight out - "How's the bébé? And how many kilos have you got left to lose?" It was such a normal question one colleague was talking about his daughter giving birth to a granddaughter he just said cryptically "Oh she's fine. Only 3 to go." I had to say "3 what? " "Kilos to lose!"

I would only have lunch with your mum if food-police unfiltered friend not invited OP

I'd be a bitch too if I had never had a roast potato. She is more to be pitied than censured.

Say that you're worried about ending up a bag of haggard old bones with a scrawny turkey neck and being jealous of every younger, curvaceous woman I see.

YANBU. She's bloody rude but I guess no one's ever picked her up on it before.
Suggest you tell your mum to leave her friend out of your meetings next time, or you'll say something that everyone will regret.

"tu me gonfles"

Don't put up with it, rude woman.

ferme la bouche s'il vous plait
shut your mouth please

for 'galloping baggage'

Give her the most syrupy, blatantly over the top sympathetic face you can conjure up and tell her it must be just awful to spend so much time obsessing about food. Then change the subject.

Look her dead in the eye and say 'I was thin because I was ill. I'd rather be heavier and well.'

And well done on your success. It must have been a scary move but you did it!

Awful woman
Please scream at her "I was on drugs, you galloping baggage"

Btw congrats on your achievements.

Ugh, I thought your thread title was rude and probably sexist... but turns out I'm going to hold the padlock for you as you get ready to put it on her lips!

You have done an amazing thing. Ignore lip flappy food phobic woman!

Anyone who believes it's appropriate to say (or think) this kind of thing has massooove problems with food and body image.

Put her weirdy problems back where they belong. Firmly onto her. I've had someone project her own stuff into me before, and it really got to me, I found it really undermining and destabilizing. And one day when she was doing it again I broke and said (rather loudly) 'do NOT push your emotions onto me. I have nothing to do with what you're saying or feeling right now. Take responsibility and deal with it yourself. Leave me alone and don't come back until you've got yourself under control again'

I found it somewhat liberating and she was shocked into silence! I think she's been used to splatting all her crap over everyone else and making everyone else the problem and herself the sainted perfect 'right' one... and everyone either tolerated her or ran away.

It wasn't about food and the way others look, but applicable nonetheless.

Push her crap back onto her and most importantly... away from you. You have too much to deal with right now to cope with this woman. Can you stop seeing her for a while (a long while!)? Or get your mother to shut her up around you?

Congratulations. Don't give the old bat another thought. At least your mum has had the grace not to tell her about your previous problems.

Have brought this up with my mum now, she said she only kept serving up in silence because she was so gobsmacked. I did say another kind of gob smacking may take place if that woman speaks to me like that again.

I get that the preoccupation with being slim is more normal for her generation especially in France, but she knows I've been trying to get well and must know remarks like that are unhelpful in the extreme.

And although I don't usually like to comment on another woman's appearance in a derogatory fashion YES, YES ACTUALLY she DOES look like a knacker's yard in a blouse.