46 and bored. What's your new adventure?

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I just keep on hearing about people that are busy and overworked. Not me. I am bored. A 12 yo son, with the usual problems, but doing fine overall. I work freelance, and it's going well at the moment. An okay-ish relationship with dp. Health ok. I loved my twenties, there was always a new adventure to embark on and so much I wanted! Now I don't seem to want much anymore. I wrote a book 2 years ago, and that gave an amazing sense of achievement. I went on an 6 months course to be a better speaker (1 day a month) and that was great for my social life, and gave me a great sense of achievement. Now I can't think of anything I would like to do next? What do you do? What's your big adventure? What have you started learning after 40?

Kudos Karma - I don't know how you found time to do a Masters on mat leave - this is fab! I felt like I didn't have time to breathe (and still don't)

I'm 46 as well but definitely not bored at the moment. In the past 12 months I have opened up a new business (with a friend, plus a team of investors backing it) and I'm also re-training as a Pilates teacher.

I have two teenage sons, so definitely wouldn't be able to juggle this without DH to help out (a lot!).

Other things I would love to do more of, if I had more time:
Craft activities - sewing, knitting, crochet
Choir
Walking
Book club (and more reading)
Voluntary work
Sleep!

Good luck finding your next adventure!

Great idea for a thread.
I go to Spanish and French Lessons
Started exercising regularly
A few years ago I completed my second masters.
Started reading again- which I love

I'm learning Welsh!

I started my masters 16 years after I finished my degree. I have however had quite a lot of relevant experience overy the years and this has stood me in good stead. I was worried about my ability to be academic but actually it has been fine - I'm definitely older and wiser!

Travelling alone is my go to thing when I can and need a challenge....Appreciate you may not be able to. Recently got back into reading. Learning a language is a good one.

Is there any work goals you have? Expansion etc? I have a tendency to get bored and have quite low moods at time but I'm currently working on plans for a start up business idea and it's given me a real sense of fulfillment that I've not had for many things before. It will probably come to nothing but it's definitely keeping me occupied for now.

I'm not too busy, but I'm restless/discontent.
I know I will go crazy if I return to admin full time in the future. I currently do it part time, and I wonder how on earth I did it full time before child. It's like being in a cage. I will have to return to full time.
I am not bored as I've always got things to do. I am fretful about the future. Like I know I can't stop it advancing but I don't know what to do with it. Like I'm stuck in quicksand.
I love being outdoors in any weather, love gardening, in any weather. I don't mind physical work as long as it's not awful pay.
I've not got a pension, assets in the house and shares.not loads though!
I thought about a degree to get into a field more suited to me, but I don't know what subject. I'm 43.
I can't complain but I wish I had an iota of knowing what direction to go in. I've always been this way, like a ship without a rudder.
I will actively find something interesting and hopefully free to do for one day every weekend during summer. Ideally something we haven't done before. I guess that's a start. 😃

Oh and I've been toying with starting a cleaning business on my spare days....but I'm worried about not getting paid....before I've even got customers or done the work.🙄

How about travelling? Visiting european cities say every 8 weeks? You can start alphabetically? Or if food is your thing, make bookings to dine at michelin star restaurants for lunch (cheaper), wine tastings, explore more of the uk?

Some counties offer adult education classes you can join

At 45 years old having never been a swimmer I got injured from running and in order to keep up my fitness I decided to get in the pool.

I'm delighted to find that I have found a love of swimming I never thought I'd find.

I am pretty fit, so refused to accept it was lack of fitness (though it's a very different fitness to running), so through sheer determination and perseverance I slowly improved and now I swim twice a week (along with running).

I feel proud of myself.

I have also started volunteering at the local drop in/foodbank for a few hours a week which has taught me a great deal and I enjoy very much.

Love this thread. I'm 40 this year and I'm a SAHM to two young ds. I was contemplating posting a similar thread! What would take you out of your comfort zone OP?

I had a wobble when I hit 30 so I went travelling, did a degree and MSc, got married, had children. Feel like a need another kick to bring myself back to life again.

At some point, I want to do a silversmithing course and learn how to make handmade shoes.

Great thread!

Yes great question. I feel the same. I live in a beautiful place in a lovely house (but rented). Kids are gorgeous. k do volunteer work and a small bit of paid work but ai am so listless. We are looking at a big change of life.. One kid going to boardign schoola nd instead of being positive and driving it forward I am sad and anxious and obsessive about it which is not helping anyone as the child really wants to go.

I need a new challenges but I am not sticking at anything. I want to start a business but I don't knwo what in, I want to work but I also don't want those things as I don't want to be too busy to have time for my chikdren when they do need me/are home.

Sadly I am not a great house wife, disorganised, messy and I don't enjoy cooking. I probably shoudl ace been a career Mum but we moved here and I couldn't work so am. A little stuck. It is coming to a head now though. Come September I will definitely start a new project....... But what??????

I finished my BA a few years ago and was thinking of doing my Masters in the future when the mortgage is paid off (it's not cheap) but then they introduced student loans for post grad so here I am, I've only just started it and it's going great. Was worried it would be too much for me but it seems not. I would highly recommend the Open University for anyone 😊

The government is thinking of introducing loans for phds next year too so who knows, I may do that next!

I'm 40 this year. Feeling extremely bored in my work and have applied for something totally different but still requiring my qualifications. It has a great pension too! If I don't get that I'm jacking my job and going self employed.

My relationship with DH is at a point where it must improve or we split. That is worrying but in some ways a relief.

Plus I've signed up for a half marathon in about six months.

Good luck everybody in your adventures!

I am 40 next year and things I want to do if I can be brave enough to get on and do them are:

• Take my freelance business to the next level - ( get new clients, make a plan to expand)
• Start a social group for SEN teens (inc my DS)
• Trial a blogging/social media idea i've had

I think I have a fear of failure that stops me throwing myself into these things and I must learn to be braver

I am 40 ish and halfway through training as an allied health professional.

Great thread.
I'm trying to read 50 books. I'd also like to learn Tagalog . There was a great thread on Mumsnet once about all kinds of wonderful online courses to do. Wish I'd made a note of it!

Fandom the thread about online courses DOES sound fascinating... maybe you should start another. Or can anybody find the thread?

I am thinking of returning to my volleyball club, or possibly a local 'return to hockey' group.

I was musing the other day about how many of the Dads I know put a lot of time into football/rugby/cricket coaching, for girls as well as boys, and also how much they seem to enjoy it.

I can't find the thread but I remember futurelearn and the OU both had some good, free online courses available.

Great question and as it happens I have just decided my mid life crisis will be to train for and compete in an Ironman triathlon. I have never done a triathlon and have no particular talent for swimming, cycling nor running, but I am loving the challenge!

Oh wow, you lot are amazing. All these adventures! I am definitely going to look into orienteering, climbing Mount Snowdon with the family (at some distant point in future, but we can practice for it), wild camping, an eat/pray/love weekend for just me (any suggestions for a meditation/yoga type school/weekend in the UK?), and no idea what ceroc or tagalog is, but have to just go and find out. I actually learned today that I already have these perfect days. Today was one! Hanging out here gave me new energy and I realised I just forget to appreciate what I have, I want it to feel new and exciting, but why is that?? Today was a dream day. I also love the 'I have always been like this' OP. I do that, and perhaps that is an age-thing. 'I tried rugby coaching, a choir and buying a horse....been there, done that, booooring, doesn't work for me'. Very, very spoiled. It's about doing the stuff I do with love. Reminding myself why I do them. And ....adding some mini adventures along the way. When I think...'it would be nice to...' just DO IT! So, please OP's that are looking to start their own business. Do the first step tomorrow. Thank you so much for all this inspiration.

Great thread. I'm 40 something, two DC at primary school & am, frankly, jealous of all of the opportunities they have in front of them. DD does ballet, gymnastics, dance & is about to start learning a musical instrument, all things I loved as a child & yet was never quite good enough at or into to continue. What is holding me back is no particular interest or desire to do a particular thing. I just want to do something else. Selfishly, I want it to be entirely for my own benefit. I haven't ruled out volunteering but I need to make sure it is something I want to do rather than just somegujh which suits the organisation. I spend a lot of time being "nice" and doing things for other people & want something for me.

I'm not quite 40, but I am an inveterate lifelong learner. I have recently completed my Level 5 Diploma in Management, and am thinking my next step will be learning Italian as I have always wanted to speak it. Or Russian. I have previously done NVQs in Customer Service, Spectator Safety and trained as a bouncer, just for fun, as well as an adult teaching certificate.

I also volunteer as a custody visitor in what little spare time I have between parenthood, full time job, part time job and being a union rep. I like to be busy!