Too think too much contact too soon?

[wittyusernamenotfound]

AIBU - contact, too much too soon?
So my husband told me at the end of Oct 2016 he wasn't happy and needed to have some space and work his shit out. Mid November he tells me the marriage is over.
I start to notice him getting texts from a woman. (I am not prying, he just leaves his phone on the coffee table when he disappears off to his office and it flashes on screen)
Begining of Janaury he is still at home, but he takes our kid out and "bumps into" his friend from work and her kid, at work, on a Sunday am.
Swears nothing has happened with her and he wanted to move out before it did.
End of January he moves into his own place.
2 out of 3 weekends that my ex has had our kid his "now" gf and her kid were there also.
This morning my kid (6) tells me she hugged the gf at the weekend, the gf thought it was cos she was wearing a fluffy jumper but actually my kid "loves her".
My heart rips open.
Anyone else thinks this is all a bit fast or AIBU?

Bold fail.

He seems to be very reasonable about finances

So was my ExH until we started putting figures on paper. He realised he couldn't manage on his own money and told me he'd be claiming the tax credits even though the kids lived with me. Just be prepared for an about-turn where money is concerned.

He seems to be very reasonable about finances
Be very careful.
They all start off like this - it's the guilt.
But the guilt subsides and it all changes.
So many of us on here can tell you that first hand!
Just get what you are entitled to.
Definitely divorce him.
You can name her if you want but I believe it's easier to just go for unreasonable behaviour.
Well done. You are sounding strong although I'm sure you aren't feeling it.

If you've split up it's entirely up to you both who you enter into a relationship with and how fast it goes, frustrating when it affects your dc but nothing you can do unless new partner is abusive or something. Splitting up means you are both free to be in a relationship with who ever you see fit (abusive or illegal behaviour aside of course which may mean you have to stop contact when the new partner's there) other than that if you are not together any more it's just nothing to do with you or him you. I get how it must be v v hard and I would really struggle if my daughter said this but as you are split neither of you have any say over how you live your lives even if you don't agree it's right for dd, again unless there's abusive behaviour going on there's nothing you can do

Although he has said several time he doesn't really want a divorce.

Yes, because he wants to have his cake and eat it. He fully intends to go crawling back to you for 'another chance' if the gf doesn't work out.

Wow SimonSmiths! So you had to try and tiptoe round his feelings?? Ffs.

No. But I was expected to...

I didn't rock the boat unnecessarily, but I didn't actuallly do anything I wouldn't have done out of ordinary reasonableness anyway (for the sake of the children).

No doubt, it IS too far too soon.

But at the same time, he (or indeed you) can put lives on hold

He IS a cockwomble, but he is your daughters dad. My worry would be if the poster above said, it turned into a "carousel" of new partners.