To still go to GP with 18 yo and book her appointments?

[Vapomaroon]

Just that really. Really cba to go out today (my only day off!) and DD has doctors. I booked the appointment at her request and she wants me to go. AIBU to say she can go on her own. Now I think about it, it's probably a bit u that I still do those things!

Dds 21 year old friend has just gone with her mum. Because she wanted her for support quite reasonable

depends on what the symptoms are.

She's not a child ffs. Bit old to be having her parents take her to the doctors. My mum used to wait in the waiting room from about 12.

It depends on whether the Doctor is the type to fob someone off.

I had to go with my DD, about my GD. My DD was dismissed because she's a young Mum and I've heard of that happening to young Women.

I think that you should be able to ask your Mum, or any close relative to go to the Doctors with you and if they agree, it's out of order to then change your mind on the day.

If your feeling vulnerable, it's nice to be shown that you've got support.

I go to the GP alone but if it's an important hospital consultation I ask a friend to come with me. Hospital drs quote a study that says patients forget around 80% of the information given to them at appointments so it seems quite a good idea to take an extra pair of ears.

If it's somethings quite routine she needs to learn to organise her own life. If it's a major illness or concern for which she needs your support then I'm guessing you'd have no issue with going with her.

The trouble is there are so many young adults out there who have no idea about managing routine matters like booking dental appointments, cooking proper meals, paying bills, understanding a phone contract or a rental agreement...all because mum and dad have done it all for them. There absolutely needs to be a transition period where they are eased into the adult world as competent people.

If it's somethings quite routine she needs to learn to organise her own life. just because OP made the appointment doesn't mean the DD can't do it, my DH is capable of organising his appointments, but as a general rule I am the one who makes the call. No reason for it.

Unless she needs the extra help with arrangements, then I think you are being a little bit unreasonable.

Making an appointment is one thing, especially if they are still at school, but, attending it with her is another. Both my daughters went to uni and there was no way I could make an appointment for them then. Besides, I think the GPs would have had something to say if I did.

They did keep the dentist though, as they are NHS.

Depends on what for and why she wants you to go with her. Being 18y doesn't mean you never need some extra support or guidance.

I'm an adult but there have been times when I have asked dh to accompany me due to wanting a bit of extra support for some reason or other.

DD is almost 15y and yes, I do go with her and make her appointments too. I sit in the chair further back and she deals with the GP, and only contribute if asked a question or dd needs me to, but at present it works better for me to be there - not least for transport - and dd prefers me to be there anyway, as her parent. I will accompany her for as long as she wants/needs me to, whilst she lives with me anyway.

Also - those quoting children of younger ages. That agin still depends on the individual, as a child has to be judged to be competent enough. Again, it will also depend on the reason for going to the doctors.

Funnily enough ds 16 has appointment tomorrow and I was wondering the same. Receptionist said fine to go if he wants me. It's not routine appointment as such. Options are go and lurk to one side or lurk in corridor in case he needs to call me in I thought. I was shocked recently when I took dd 14 for a two yearly check of a babyhood issue and the consultant pretty much dismissed me and started talking to her about possible surgery (which we had not expected at all before the appointment).
For you, go if she wants you but fine to wait outside if not.

I was shocked recently when I took dd 14 for a two yearly check of a babyhood issue and the consultant pretty much dismissed me and started talking to her about possible surgery (which we had not expected at all before the appointment).

I have that now with DDs consultant and she's only recently turned 11!

bloody I'm pretty sure I was told I had to be present for a medical appointment for dd as she was under 16 (or 18 I can't remember)....

I'm 27 and had to get my DMum to come to the doctors with me a few months ago, because I was staying with her and my throat had basically swollen shut with tonsillitis. The doctor laughed when she saw us and asked if Mum was my translator!

Apart from that I just wouldn't go with Mum, first off we live quite a long way apart and have done since I was 19, but also, it's my body and my health. Bugger all to do with her.

My dh is a very very successful professional. I had to make him a dr's apt and send him with a note to give the Dr to get his piles sorted out because "how do you start to discuss that sort of nonsense"? He is very grateful - it was only a small procedure .

If a grown man needs help why shouldn't a teen have it. To be fair dh and I have been together since 1989 and he's been to the Drs three times so he's not exactly expert.