My neighbour is a single mum like myself, her DD is in the same class as my DS and we recently got talking and quite friendly (though not 'let's go out for drinks' friendly just more chatty). She and I both work full time, but she doesn't have a bank account so all her money goes into her sisters account, who in turn ensures her rent in paid, bills, takes her food shopping and then gives her an allowance. (Her sister is much, much older and who she considers more 'responsible')
Last month she asked to borrow £25 for a takeaway and some snacks for an unplanned movie night with her friends, as she wouldn't be seeing her sister for a few days. I borrowed her it. A few times after she's asked me to pick her up milk, bread, butter and other small bits throughout the weeks that followed as she wasn't to go shopping with her sister for a while - I did. Last week she asked for £4 to get the bus, as she had no cash on her and again - wouldn't be seeing her sister for a while. I borrowed her it. She then asked for £15 to pay for her taxi she had just got out of as she realised AFTER calling it (
) she had no cash on her. Again, I borrowed her it.
I feel like I'm her bank account at the moment and I'm never seeing this money back. If I truly had to add it up (and before typing this I sat and did so) it's around £70ish I've borrowed her, from just picking up odd things to everything else listed above. I'm not even sure how to politely ask either as she never, ever mentions it and I'm not sure how to bring it up! (I'm not a very assertive person 
).
But I don't just buy her things: I'm constantly lending her things too. She doesn't have a kettle, so she is always asking me to borrow mine when she's cooking or has friends round and wants to make coffee etc. She borrows my iron and ironing board 2-3 times a week to do her ironing. She borrows my Hoover ever 2-3 days too, as she doesn't have one. She's got a few of my plates, mugs, one of my pans, bowls, spoons etc because she doesnt have enough for whatever she's doing at that time and I don't see them back. I'm always giving her toilet roll and I'm convinced from the first time I gave her a roll she's not bought one since and instead keeps asking me whenever the roll I give her runs out!
I give batteries, shampoo, washing up liquid, washing powder - basically small things constantly as she's always 'running out' and tonight she knocked on my door asking for some toothpaste (I had to squeeze it onto a plate at her request ) and I'm sat here with my cup of tea right now thinking...
I'm an idiot.
I'm actually that idiot I always give advice to others not to be because I've slowly let myself be taken advantage of. And I actually didn't see it happening! It started off small, just little favours and now I feel like I'm in too deep. AIBU and un-neighbourly to think this?? Is this normal neighbour behaviour?! Honestly I feel like she shouldn't bother buying anything other than food because I'm her bloody supermarket!!
How do I get out of this without making an enemy out of my DS's classmates mum and my next door neighbour?? 