To be shocked by what I saw

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Last night, having a meal at 7 in a nice pub and a parent got their child to use the potty by their table. This isn't normal, is it?!

My son started shitting himself one trip to IKEA in the children's section (we were a few days in to potty training and had just left the toilets after a long and unsuccessful attempt on potty). It was either continue letting him shit himself or run through the shop with him shitting himself, so I whipped the potty out of the pram, sat him on it, hid him under one of those raised bed things and apologised profusely to any passers by.

He had just turned 2, was too scared to sit on a toilet so we used a potty in the cubicles when out. It took a few weeks for him to get used to sitting on actual toilet. He has never had an accident since, and has no trouble now.

I am absolutely in agreement that this is disgusting, and fortunately I had a plastic bag to wrap potty up in to take back to toilet. It was horrible, I can't understand why anyone would do this by choice.

I recently posted on my FB (you can tell what a glamorous life I lead!) that I had been sat waiting on the kids getting off a ride at Alton towers and was actually sat on a bench directly outside the toilets. A family came and sat beside me and got their 3/4 year old to do a poo on the potty. I was disgusted. I was torn apart on Facebook for being inconsiderate of other people's needs and this child might have had X Y Z issue and maybe they're scared of toilets and basically I'm a bitch. I was 😵.

It's not unusual for people to change their children on coffee tables In our restaurant and then try to hand staff the nappy over the bar "you got a bin?" - yes we have a baby change and yes we are actually a fairly nice place. People don't shock me any more, some are just bloody disgusting. Never had anyone whip a potty about though, I couldn't tolerate that. Gross.

Friend told me she had seen someone whip the potty out in the middle of a city street for DC to wee into!

gameofchance but it's easier there to see how there is no alternative - you might easily be 15 minutes from a public loo in a big city, assuming you even know where one is, and let's face it most toddlers ain't going to wait that long.

That is foul and selfish. They should have taken the potty to the toilet like normal people. Absolutely disgusting. YANBU. What a lack of respect to all the people paying for a lovely meal out.

That would have completely put me off my dinner and made me feel sick if i'd seen that. I would have had to leave. (I'm sure some of you will think that way ott but i have germ phobic OCD and i'd possibly even have a panic attack, feel the place wasn't clean and i had to get out)
I certainly wouldn't be happy paying for the experience, especially if i hadn't gotten very far through my own dinner.

Any normal person would want to leave the restaurant if someone did this. It's indefensible - no excuse for subjecting people to this crass behaviour. If people wanted to dine in a toilet, they'd have done that.

I've got the potty out in a corner of a park that was nowhere near a loo. But restaurants have loos!

you might easily be 15 minutes from a public loo in a big city

The OP was in a pub. Where, I presume, there are a variety of toilets available.

I'm surprised at the number of people saying they've seen this behaviour, i can't believe it's so common.

Poster saying that people regularly change nappies on their tables in their restaurant is shocking, that's absolutely repulsive. If it kept happening then why isn't a strict policy being reinforced?

Very lazy of the restaurant worker to say it's wrong for people to complain. Surely it's the restaurants responsibility to keep a safe and hygeinic space for their customers? Rather than saying "poor me i'll have to speak to the filthy bastards that are spreading shit germs to customers" they should be going straight over and telling said filthy bastards that it's unacceptable and direct them to the toilets. If employees don't do anything then i imagine that's why it keeps happening as shown in the other example.

I was once southbound on the DART train in Dublin when we pulled into a certain station, probably two seconds after a woman on the opposite platform figured the coast was clear and whipped up her skirt to pee voluminously. She had passed the point of no return when my train stopped, and everyone aboard gawked, open-mouthed, for the duration of our stop. Served her right that she was caught.

YANBU
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Guide dog pups in training often poop in shop aisles....

I'm just saying...

I'm just saying...

Why? It's irrelevant.

Disgusting!

Oh for goodness sake.
The content of this thread is now all over an Australian website's FB page.

#lazyjournalism

She said the words 'pub' so it has to be in the UK...oh wait there are pubs in other countries of the world? Who knew...

Maybe your comments implies that this atrocious act can only happen in another country which is offensive and small minded.

Unless you have to clean it, mind your business. How is it any worse than people letting their dogs foul the pavement and you having to scrape it off your shoe?

Slightly off topic, but the Daily Fail are not only guilty of lazy journalism but also jumping to conclusions. The OP referred to "a parent" allowing their child to use the potty but the Fail's headline claimed that "A mother sparked an online backlash after she let her child to use the potty in the middle of an upmarket pub."

Quite apart from the fact that the English in that so-called headline is shit and they've equated "nice" with "upmarket", where in the OP's first post did it specify that it was the mother? I know that a later comment mentioned that "she" tied the bag but I'd be willing to bet that the lazy excuse for a journalist didn't RTFT! And some of the comments on that pathetic "story" are really vitriolic towards women, it's the sort of thing the Fail thrives on. Bunch of bastards...

Should have added that yes, of course it's foul!

Any normal person would want to leave the restaurant if someone did this. It's indefensible - no excuse for subjecting people to this crass behaviour. If people wanted to dine in a toilet, they'd have done that. Agreed.

Poster saying that people regularly change nappies on their tables in their restaurant is shocking, that's absolutely repulsive. Agreed.

I'm frankly appalled that any eating establishment would allow this. I would leave immediately if I saw this, and never go there again. As we did when we saw someone allow their dog to defacate under their table in a restaurant in Italy once. Absolutely disgraceful.

Why are people bringing dogs into it? Dogs fouling the street is illegal and you can get fined.

As far as assistance dogs go well I'd take my chances based on the fact staying in fir a week to get your kid used to telling g you they need a wee is a pain in the arse but no where near comparable to being housebound permanently because the dog which saves your life or helps you get to places might poop. There are amazing inventions called pull ups which means if your kid had an accident en route to the bathroom people in a restaurant don't have to watch a child shit in a potty.

That wasn't to you jax that was to angel

I guessed that Giles! The dog in my example was a tiny 'handbag' dog, not an assistance dog. I've never seen a child and potty (thank goodness).

It does seem astonishing that people actually take a potty and expect to use it in a place where others are eating - in the same place!!