To be shocked by what I saw

[Todayistuesday]

Last night, having a meal at 7 in a nice pub and a parent got their child to use the potty by their table. This isn't normal, is it?!

[GabsAlot]

why are u bothered what your parents think thats their problem

u didnt need to tell anyoen but the staff who wold deal with it

[SuperFlyHigh]

I think I would have been hard pressed to comment out loud. It's disgusting.

[Todayistuesday]

Stillstaying, very valid point. Shouldn't have mentioned it being a 'nice' pub! Also about the child's privacy.

[MissCalamity]

YANBU. I've just started potty training DC2 & would gauge where the toilets are as soon as we got in the pub & take her there as soon as she starts shouting! The only place I'd whip the potty out would be a corner of the park.
I know potty training is frustrating, but the whole goal is to get the kids in the toilet surely?!

[PourMeAGlassOfMilk]

We're potty training ds2 at the moment. He's not confident to sit on the toilet yet so we take the potty with us when we go out but always go to the toilets to use it. Nobody wants to see a child do a great steaming shit while they're eating their dinner!

[HappyFlappy]

A woman at our toddler group did that once, and then just pushed the potty full off poo under the table until she'd finished her coffee and cake.

I wouldn't care - she and her husband weren't a couple of charvers - they were a professional couple, with of them privately educated and you would have thought they would know better (or did they think that us plebs wouldn't mind - we did!).

Someone did make a comment about hygiene/ the risks of it being knocked over by crawling infants etc, but she just blithely waved off their concerns.

[user1489179512]

The staff would not have allowed this if they had known. You should have told them.

[Astoria7974]

Public elimination is a feature of mainland Chinese culture, though. Experienced this first hand in china and the UK and not just with the tube.

[Beansonapost]

"Public elimination" is done in china because babies don't wear nappies... I've never seen an older child take a shit in a restaurant ... and I lived in china for years.

It's just nasty! And inconsiderate to both diners and the child.

I don't understand the need to take a potty out in public either... don't you just take the child to the toilets?

[Mathena]

I have been around so long I remember a brilliant thread posted by an mn-er asking if she was BU letting her toddler use a potty in a busy museum/gallery (?) café because if she'd taken her toddler to the toilet she would have lost their table. Sympathies........... but nope, still gross.

[mikado1]

Eughhh! I remember a thread on another forum about a child doing a poo in a potty while queuing in primark!

On day one using potty my ds split his head open so he did use a potty (wee) in an a&e cubicle but no one else was around at least.

[DaisyQueen]

That is disgusting, the toilets couldn't have been more than 2 mins away, why not take it in there? When I was potty training dd at 2 years old I took the potty everywhere for the first few weeks and she sometimes had a wee in it on the school run behind a bush or in an alleyway. I never thought anything of it as it was better than wet pants but maybe that's a bit grim too

[mikado1]

I would think nothing of that either daisy, or a lidl carpark, no customers toilet and a 15min journey home.

[DaisyQueen]

mikado phew I thought I was being disgusting for a minute. The school run is a 20 minute walk each way. Also took it to the beach and parks but even then we went out of sight while she done her business.

[MeadowHay]

Omg that is so gross. Surely someone must have told the staff? Ew.

[Todayistuesday]

We occasionally do a wee outside caught short. Not if there's anywhere else to go though.

[dataandspot]

Op- did the child wipe themselves or did the parents do it? I don't understand what happened!

[ShoutOutToMyEx]

Someone did this at the pantomime at Christmas. I was

[Vermillioncomfyshoes]

This happened in my local sports club bar. The steward went over,
told them it was not acceptable, and asked them to never do it again.
Both parents looked round them in shock, asking if anybody heard what the steward had said to them. They were actually shocked, and thought they were in the right, and that other customers should be stepping up and supporting them against the nasty steward.
All the other customers were shocked that the parents were shocked at being called out on letting their kid poo in the middle of a busy bar area. It was a shocking afternoon for all concerned.

[Vermillioncomfyshoes]

Apart from the toddler, who didn't give a shit. Well, he did and he didn't IYSWIM.

[HarrietSchulenberg]

Crikey, I still feel grim for whipping a potty out in a bus stop on Scarborough seafront 13 years ago. Never, ever, ever in a restaurant though. Ugh.

[Screwinthetuna]

Yuk, no. I've let mine use in by the car but we are outside and I try to conceal her...

[Lazyafternoon]

I guess as a parent of a potty training toddler, at home having the potty out and around the house is pretty normal... when first starting out there was a potty in every room! We actively tried to make going to the potty a fun and normal thing for him to do. So I can understand the parents being a blasé about it.

I also have a fold up portable potty with liners that lives in the bottom of the buggy for emergencies. We live a 15 (30minute at toddler pace) walk home from town and despite taking him to loo before setting off it's sods law we will be half way and he'll decide he needs a wee. So a couple of times he has used it in the park. He's also used it on the beach and on days out to outdoors places that it's a big trek to the nearest toilets.

BUT that's in our own home and outdoors! I would never get the potty out somewhere where there's a toilet within reach (the folding potty also can fold out to be a toilet seat). I also wouldn't get the potty out right in front of strangers. I don't want them seeing DS pulling his pants down for a start. Other parents of toddlers may be used it, but other people aren't.

I wouldn't dream of getting him to go for a poo anywhere in front of other people. They really don't want to see that! Luckily DS has regular habits so we started out with the rule that poos don't go in the potty they goo in the loo .... cleaning out a pooey potty is horrible.

As for the hygiene aspect though - I don't think a toddler having a wee in a potty is actually that bad (poo is different issue) ... maybe I'm just not a hygiene freak, but I don't see what the issue is? Yes it could get kicked over... Yes they parent and child should wash (or at least anti bac wet wipe) their hands. But as long as emptied straight away and cleaned hands it's not really a biggy.

But there are plenty of other skanky things I see loads of people do that bother me more: not washing hands after going to the loo, picking nose, letting babies crawl around on pub floor, wearing outdoor shoes in swimming pool changing rooms, wearing outdoor shoes all round the house..... But that's another thread!

[Lallypopstick]

Must be a slow news day at the Mail

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