To ask for a nicest things said thread?

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So after the thoroughly depressing and anger inducing read that is the thread of rudest things said to you, can we start one with the nicest thing someone has ever said to you? Just to restore my faith in humanity a little!

Please and thank you

I don't have a car, so at weekends often take the bus into town with the DCs. DD (4) generally jumps on ahead of me, sits next to anyone who looks friendly and spends the journey chatting to them (I keep an eye on her obv!). Yesterday she sat with a young woman (early 20s or so) and talked to her about her outfit (which was vintage and fabulous!), when we all got off the woman stopped me and said "Just wantef to say your daughter is absolutely gorgeous, so lovely, she's a credit to you!" I was really touched :) This thread is lovely!

At work a few weeks ago, I went into the canteen for my afternoon break, sat a couple of tables away from my manager and a couple of other managers in the department. After I got back to my desk my manager sent me an IM saying she didn't know if I'd heard them, but they were saying that they wished more people had the same "can do, no moan" attitude I have, and that I'm highly thought of by the managers. I felt all glowy for the rest of the day!

Someone once told me that I was "quiet but not shy, smart but not judgemental" and that I had a "unique type of introversion, intelligence, and subtlety". It felt like the first time that someone had viewed my differences as positive qualities.

When DS2 was a baby he was really poorly, had an NG and generally was pale and thin and just ill looking. So many people would stare or ask what's wrong with him, make comments and I got very sad and sensitive to it.

One day we were in a queue in a shop and this lady looked at him and then smiled and told me he had such beautiful eyes then walked off. She didn't mention his tube or how unwell he clearly was and it lifted my spirits in such a huge way ive never forgotten it!

I have social anxiety and don't often make plans with people. A friend sent me that meme about pigs in blankets - saying they are like a friend who isn't around that often but when they are everyone has the best time. Wail 😭

I recently received a FB message from a girl who was in my class at school. She said "I know we were never really friends at school but there were so many times when people made unkind comments about me and you always stood up for me and most of the time even got them to apologise. I just wanted you to know how grateful I am for that."

I don't even remember doing it, but I am an argumentative cow. I've been going through a really rough time lately and it really meant such a lot to me.

Just goes to show how much of a difference a few kind words or actions can make without us perhaps realising at the time.

So nice that many of these have come at the exact points where people needed to hear then.

My Mum told me that I'm an amazing mum to DS (17 months). I have zero experience with babies/kids apart from him, and suffered with PND, so to know I'm doing a good job meant so much.

Actually, last week she said something similar again, and I replied, "Well, he makes it easy, he's so lovely!" and she said, "That's all down to you."

It's given me so much confidence in my parenting abilities!

I was stopped in Sainsbury's a few weeks ago by a woman who looked to be in her eighties who told me that I was 'So, so beautiful'. Shallow as it may seem, it made my day. My sister, who was with me at the time, suggested that she was probably suffering from dementia but I prefer to think that this was not the case.

This is a bit trivial really, but it made my day at the time. Many years ago the exterior of our office building was being redecorated during a hot Summer. My office, which I shared with a female colleague, was on the 4th floor and whichever of us got in first would open the window. One morning, when the decorators were at 3rd floor level on the scaffolding, I arrived first, opened the window and suddenly heard a disembodied voice yelling "GOOD MORNING, FRU!". I leant out of the window to return the greeting and said "but how did you know it was me, not ?" The decorator replied "because you always wear such lovely perfume."

I nannied for years. Loved every one of the 21 kids I helped look after, and because I'm a sentimental old fool still have a precious folder full of their artwork, poems etc.

Was recently looking through it, and went properly tearful when I came across the following, undiscovered for over 15 years as the note had slipped between glued pages...

Written in the wobbly handwriting of one 7 yr old little lad (he had to contend with many challenges, including ADHD, social anxiety, Tourette's and mild Asperger's, which made the words even more poignant):

"I reely love yew, MarilynWhirlwindRocks. Yew olways mek me feel speshel spechel gud"

and illustrated with a drawing (which I think is meant to be me cuddling him).

I'm still in touch with the family.

When I was in a tropical holiday location/resort, 99% of us were all hot and sweaty in casual shorts and t shirts etc. Usual tourist garb for tramping about the sights...

Then in comes this lady, dressed in a very pretty white broderie anglaise dress, looked cool as a cucumber and flawless. So I went up to her and said, "excuse me, I just wanted to say how stunning you look. Your dress is gorgeous and you look so elegant and cool"

She looked quite shocked, but after a moment, broke out into the biggest, beamiest smile I have seen in a long time. I could see her telling her OH from where I was sat and he looked so proud as well.

So it wasn't me getting the nice thing said, but we both felt good after it happened

Lovely thread!

After running around after my terminally ill Grandad at the start of the year (think trips to opticians, shops, pharmacy etc) I asked him if there was anything else he needed. He said no thanks and I began to walk out of his house, he shouted me back in
Him: "oh hey aintnobody!"
Me: "yeah? Have you forgotten something you need?"
Him: "yeah, to tell you you're a godsend"
Me:
He was such a bloke and hardly ever expressed emotion so coming from him it was such a lovely thing to hear. He died a few days later

My DM said to me yesterday that her friend thinks I'm an "interesting person". I was pleased about that. (As long as she meant good-interesting and not weird-interesting )

Bumping for more lovely stories!

This is lovely.
My terminally ill mum telling me that she was really proud of me last August when I was 6 months pregnant, she had never been the type to gush which has always kept my feet on the ground but when she died a week later I instantly remembered this lovely thing she'd said.

My favourite compliment came from my old manager who said that she wished more people could be like me 'because you just crack on with it, no moaning or whinging, and you create calm wherever you go. Even the grumpy patients love you.'

My next favourite is from my MIL who said 'I am glad that (My Definitely Odd) found you. You are both as mental as each other but you make him so happy and relaxed that it is lovely to see.' She then went on to bewail the difficulties she was having with SIL1 who is affectionately known as the Ice Princess by the family.

But the best one is when my DD turned to me, put her hand in mine and said 'Mummy, we fit. That's the best way to be'. Made me cry that one (possibly because we have infected her with our madness.....)

My hot, young friend—on whom I have a MASSIVE crush (yeah, he knows)—on being told that I found him stunning and clever, replied: 'To be called clever by you is a HUGE compliment'. I melted

[RS, I'll love you forever for that]

S xxx

Just to clarify, when I say young, he's 35—just to clarify.

stevie What are you waiting for?! Get it ON!

A top QC once described me as "the most competent solicitor I have ever had the pleasure of working with" which was rather pleasing.

But the best ever was a card the DSs once made for me. It said "Mummy - luxury and exotic - no evil!" How's that for a compliment

My DD18 was talking to her friends quite recently and one said something like 'yeah but that is Mums for you, they are all annoying'
My DD said 'Speak for yourself, my Mum is ace'

A friend of mine commented on a RadFem link I shared about the Glamour woman of the year awards 'You would be MY woman of the year mate' ...which was nice

A guy at work told me I was 'film star beautiful' which was nice - it was said in a sort of considered, abstract way (I WAS pretty then but not beautiful in a conventional way)

The one that really sticks with me, and I'm not sure why, wasn't said directly to me. Years ago when I'd had a rough time in a previous job I ended up working with a contractor from quite a high profile company. It was a short term contract and I moved house after about 10 months. A few months after moving my then boyfriend came home and said 'Weirdest thing happened today - guy came in to work and I noticed his business card was from (the contractor I used to work with) so I asked if he ever worked on that project". To cut a longish story short it turned out the customer had been one of our consultants and he said "Oh so she actually did move house then? We all assumed she'd been head-hunted and no-one was allowed to talk about it" God knows why...

I try to pluck up the courage and not be 'English' about dishing out compliments - the other day I saw a young mum in the park who wasn't dressed in anything out of the ordinary but had co-ordinated her outfit so well that she looked really elegant, so I made a point of telling her. She gave me a proper face in return

More bumps!

Awww when I was about 17 I was out with a group of my friends and as I got out of the car my big scarf I was wearing instead of a coat got caught in the door and fell off. I was wearing a strapless dress underneath so it was probably quite surprising.

When I turned around my 3 friends (q boy 2 girls) were just standing there with their mouths open. Then one of the girls said "Persis.....you are really hot!!!".

That's about a million years ago and I still remember the look on their faces. Amazing.