Who is wrong, me or him?

[GrandmaGotRunOverByAReindeer]

There's an annual activity that I do and I've really been looking forward to.
I told him the exact date 3 weeks age and asked him to book it off asap, he told me his boss had said it was too far in advance but it would be fine.

This morning he tells me he can't have it off now because 2 other people have.
he will be working 6am-6pm that day, I will be out 5:15am-7:30pm.

I asked if he could swap shifts with someone, he said no.
I said I would ask my mum and my sister and he said he wasn't dragging the kids out of bed that early, I said my sister could stay over and he said I'm selfish because the activity is obviously more important than anything else.
Then he asked if I wanted him to find Gary glitters number since I didn't care who had them as long as it wasn't me..

I'm annoyed because he was supposed to sort it and hasn't, he has a history of not bothering if somethings not important to him, he will go to his brothers for half an hour but actually come back hours later when I've missed something I was supposed to do.

[ZaZathecat]

How did you get him to go? He doesn't sound like the type to do as he's told.

[WhereYouLeftIt]

"he will go to his brothers for half an hour but actually come back hours later when I've missed something I was supposed to do."
That's what leapt out at me from your OP. A track record of actions he deliberately takes to prevent you from doing stuff. Controlling, controlling, controlling.

I'm relieved that you had emotionally detached from him, and so had the strength to end this damaging relationship. This can only be better for you and your children.

But - controlling men don't like it when their toys are taken away. They tend to fight back, and they fight dirty. Have you got support - your family, your friends?

[pluck]

Wow! Well done!

[Dowser]

The activity is in July and he tells you he couldn't swap shifts.
That's even worse op.
Well done.
You deserve a life too!

[RebelRogue]

Well done OP!
A friend's husband is exactly the same,he won't say no to something,but then he'll book overtime,activities etc so she either has to cancel or scramble round to find emergency childcare. If she goes out at night,he'll constantly text,ask a billion times if he should come to pick her up and more than once just showed up to pick her up and cutting her night short. He's a controlling twat disguising it as the "concerned" husband.