A bedroom one

[sorryforme]

What would you think about this?

A man lives by himself in a 3 bedroom house with 2 double rooms, 1 small single. He has 1 dc to stay up to 3 nights a week.

AIBU to be annoyed that said dc is given the small room?

I know people often do this when they are a couple but he has the whole of the rest of the house for himself already.

Nothing wrong with a child - whether they're residenty full time or part time - having the smallest bedroom, as long as it fits a bed and has a window. Big enough is big enough.

Growing up my parents had a five-bedroomed house. I shared one room with my only brother until I was eleven, while three rooms were spare. Then we had the two single rooms, whire two doubles stood empty. It didn't occur to us to mind. We loved having our own little rooms.

My wife was one of three siblings in a four bedroom house. She and her sister had doubles, and we're always a little jealous of their brother who had the single room as it was 100% his. They had to share theirs with their parents' work stuff, or move when they had visitors.

I don't see why this should be a problem, especially if the child is OK with it. The last thing you should do is say anything to the child that makes them think this is an issue. It really isn't!

It makes sense to me - small child, small room!

3 nights a week is basically 50% of the time

It's not, and OP says up to 3 nights a week, so clearly sometimes its less.

Has your DC complained about being in the smaller room? If not please don't plant that seed, it will only cause unnecessary upset. If the room is clean, warm and has a decent bed I don't see the issue assuming DC is allowed free run of the sitting room and not bundled into the bedroom as soon as they're in the door.

I find it odd, so many people would use a double room for occasional use for guests and the child who lived there would have the small room! I don't know anyone in real life who does that.
Does it change as the child gets older?

I'm feeling rather spoilt, I have the biggest bed room and my own bathroom!

Small rooms are cute and cozy.
I love small bedroom spaces, visions of lace curtains, beautiful wallpaper.

I guess he's a ex for good reason!!

Yes, and those good reasons lead the OP to find fault in anything he does. Sorry OP but that's professional experience speaking.

My place has a huge double, a smaller double and a box. I chose the smaller double. It meets my needs. Child chose the single. Neither of us like the huge room. He's here permanently. If he decides at some point to take the bigger room he can.

He likes it because it's cosier and there's less to clean. Everything that he wants is in the room. And most of all, he's happy.

Get a grip. The child has its own bedroom. Doesn't matter which or what size it is.

I think it's fine, and it's the way I would organise it, too. The DC gets their own dedicated bedroom for themselves, and the other double can be used as study/guest room/multifunction room.

Seems an odd thing to get annoyed about, as long as the child has a bedroom it seems a tad petty to me.

We have 4 bedroom town house. 3 very big double bedrooms and a smaller (but still a double) dc1 went into the small double at first then when dc2 arrived, dc1 went into the double on the same floor and dc2 into the smaller double.

The top floor has the master bedroom and the spare room (which I sleep in most of the time)

When they are older we will look into them moving rooms, if they want to and make the small double back into a games/study room.

Children get single rooms to themselves because they are single people. It doesn't make them any less a member of the family. If there were two children, maybe the double for them to share would be better - because there would be two of them. But one child with a single room to themselves is more than lots of children get.

A full desk, printer, chair and storage for files is a nightmare in a box room.

Also, a smaller room is less overwhelming for a child, easier for them to look after and keep warm.

You're looking to find fault where there is none.

As long as your child has somewhere safe and suitable to sleep the size is irrelevant really and I'd be choosing my battles if your ex is that selfish. I'm sure there'll be some crackers to come in the future.

Besides, if your child complains about the size of the room tell them it's none of your business and to speak with their dad. He can deal with the consequences of his decision.

For what it's worth though it would probably needle me too.