My friend has 2 DDs. I have 2 DS's of similar age. I have been desperate for a third child, and it hasn't worked out so far. We have had some fertility treatment but it hasn't worked so far. I am getting older and we are reaching the end of the line with the process. I am coming to terms with the fact that it is unlikely to happen for us.
My friend also relatively recently decided to try for a 3rd child. Today she texts me a picture of a positive preg test. I texted back how thrilled I was for her/ congratulations etc etc - I am happy for her, although inside I couldn't help feeling very sad and envious for myself. Anyway, just after texting she calls me full of excitement about it, "is it too early to buy baby clothes" "can't wait" etc etc.And then she says: "but with my luck, this one will be a boy- it would be just my bad karma to get a boy- payback for all the times I've said how great it is to have two girls." We have two boys. For some reason I was just so hurt that she thinks that having a boy is some terrible thing/ something to be pitied. I don't really have an issue with the gender of my kids (I would love to have a DD, but equally would love another DS.) But I was so devastated after the call and can't work out whether I am just jealous, or whether she was being really insensitive on the boy thing. Any thoughts?