We're both in our 40s
I'm divorced and have 2 sons 5yo and 9yo
She is divorced and has 2 daughters 5yo and 10yo
We both have our own homes
She has daughters nearly full time . I have my boys every other weekend and 1 night through the week. When I have the boys at the weekend she has the girls so we always all meet up and do something together.
We've been together 2.5 years
Anyway she works part time as a photographer. She paid for a full day photography course last Friday at a centre 50 miles away and said she won't get home until 1730. She told me last week on Tuesday that she had no childcare yet as her girls finish school at 1530. She didn't want to ask the girls Dad for some reason and her Mum was too busy.
I then offered to drive to her girls school and pick them up at 4pm from after school club. I pick my own sons up at 1530 so I would then drive the 7 miles to her daughters school. She agreed with this and I suggested when she got back we go all go out for dinner. Again she agreed as she said she wouldn't have anything prepared anyway with been on the course all day.
Everything ok so far. I then made one request. I said please can you give me a call when you are on your way back. She said No I don't need to. I said please I would really appreciate a call just to let me know what time you will be back.. She refused and said I don't need to because I've ready told you it will be 1730. I asked very politely every time but she just refused every request which left me feeling frustrated.
Now kids at 1730 are starting to get really hungry so I wanted to ensure I was pulling onto her drive at exactly the same time so her girls could get a quick change then we could go straight to the restaurant. I wanted to avoid any delays and didn't just want to get a phone call from her saying "I'm home you can bring them back now"
By the time I get 4 kids packed up shoes on strapped in the car etc etc it would just be more wasted time..Also I didn't want the situation where she says I'm home and the kids say "I've just started playing this game" or "I've just started watching this cartoon" etc etc...I just like to be really organised and know what's going on. I even told her even if your on time can you just let me know......She refused and said she doesnt seem any need to.
Am I wrong. I thought it was a reasonable request.
Would appreciate any opinions on the matter. It's caused a fall out......thanks for reading.