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To think that people living on welfare shouldn't be running off every five minutes for a new tattoo or piercing?

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allfurcoatandnoknickers1 · 09/03/2017 17:02

I'm probably going to get shot down for this, but I just had a little disagreement with a woman I know. She posted a photo on Facebook of a rather large tattoo on her forearm that she'd just had done. Last month she had skin divers put in her chest and hand. The month before she had another shit tattoo.
This individual is single and has two children. She hasn't worked a day in the last decade, but is living off the state. Am I being a bitch by thinking she should spend the money she receives on feeding the children and keeping a roof over their heads? I noted that she feeds her boys Pot Noodle for dinner but makes sure she's got her fags too. It just annoys me.

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Draylon · 09/03/2017 19:11

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heyduggeeallday · 09/03/2017 19:11

I claim income support and don't smoke, don't drink and occasionally treat me and kids to some m and s goodies (their value brand). Frankly it has fuck all to do with anyone! Parents who work can also abuse and neglect their kids you know!

10Betty10 · 09/03/2017 19:12

Super Noodles have started doing their own version of Pot Noodle. The chicken one is a delight. The bacon one smells like wee.

littlefrog3 · 09/03/2017 19:14

230 messages in just over 2 hours. Fuck me is that a record? Grin

PickAChew · 09/03/2017 19:14

Were you privately educated, op? Did you have your children without using any NHS services. Or have you paid enough tax to cover all that?

expatinscotland · 09/03/2017 19:15

Did you get married in Maui by any chance?

maddiemookins16mum · 09/03/2017 19:15

Meh, my sister "earned" 22k a year for 9 years with one child, an all inc holiday in Spain every year, 20 fags a day, housing association home (all repairs, new kitchen, bathroom), they even paid someone to trim her fringe of a front garden.

It wasn't until the Labour gvt were ousted that she "had to" get a job.

She did (because she had to). She has admitted to me more than once, she was living the life of Riley for years (Xboxes at Christmas etc).

Now, 15 or so years later, she is managing a Care Home, because she was told she had to work.

Her Niece, working full time, privately renting took home £16,500 in the same era. No holidays, fags, etc. With one child.

Not everyone on benefits is living the "life of Riley", far from it. But there are also families "earning" less (still) than those who don't work at all who "take home" more.

PageNowFoundFileUnderSpartacus · 09/03/2017 19:17

no thanks I have my pride

Yes, heaven forbid anyone on benefits should be allowed one iota of self-respect or any pretence at a "normal" life, where people get to make their own choices about on what they spend the money to which they're legally entitled. Keep 'em down, force them to hand over their voucher in the one shop that has been decreed suitable for them. That won't make them feel even more like a part of a hated underclass than they already do or mark them out as an irresponsible person not fit to handle money. Why not throw in a little forced sterilisation while you're about it?

PickAChew · 09/03/2017 19:17

Everyone might contribute, nominally, Draylon, but that doesn't mean that they don't cost the state more than they contribute in their lifetime.

SauvignonBlanche · 09/03/2017 19:18

😱 🍿🍿🍿

PickAChew · 09/03/2017 19:18

And by the state, that means more than just welfare.

BillSykesDog · 09/03/2017 19:18

New benefit plan - goats for everyone!

No fucking way. I sent a goat to Africa and the ungrateful little cunt didn't even send a postcard.

gamerchick · 09/03/2017 19:19

Maybe you need a Facebook cull OP before you have an embolism. why you would have anyone on your Facebook you clearly dislike is beyond me.

Natsku · 09/03/2017 19:20

Did the goat get your goat then Bill?

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BillSykesDog · 09/03/2017 19:24

It could be worse. She could be making people pay her to tattoo her children. That would make the Daily Mail and Channel 5 explode. In a great big shower of benefits goat milk.

BitchQueen90 · 09/03/2017 19:30

Hmm. How old are her children, OP?

allfurcoatandnoknickers1 · 09/03/2017 19:30

Yes, heaven forbid anyone on benefits should be allowed one iota of self-respect or any pretence at a "normal" life, where people get to make their own choices about on what they spend the money to which they're legally entitled. Keep 'em down, force them to hand over their voucher in the one shop that has been decreed suitable for them. That won't make them feel even more like a part of a hated underclass than they already do or mark them out as an irresponsible person not fit to handle money. Why not throw in a little forced sterilisation while you're about it?

Do you know what, you should be PM. I think Astoria was fair to comment that she has her pride. But apparently having pride and wanting to be self sufficient is a reason for attack here. Spending your benefits on tattoos is totally fine though. Brilliant.

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allfurcoatandnoknickers1 · 09/03/2017 19:31

Hmm. How old are her children, OP?

Her children are 8 and 6.

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CecileSo · 09/03/2017 19:32

If you're poor you aren't allowed to step a foot out of line without judgement.

Yet over on the "does my bum look 40 in this blog" posher than posh rich bankers wife SAHM Kat admitted to feeding her kids day old cold McDonald's for breakfast and nobody said a thing. In fact it was very much lol lol we all have those day. If that was Charmaine from the council estate she would have been ripped a new one.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 09/03/2017 19:33

This individual is single and has two children. She hasn't worked a day in the last decade, but is living off the state. Am I being a bitch by thinking she should spend the money she receives on feeding the children and keeping a roof over their heads? I noted that she feeds her boys Pot Noodle for dinner but makes sure she's got her fags too. It just annoys me.

My DCs love a pot noodle! I can't stand the stuff personally.
I'm single, don't smoke and on benefits but don't have any tattoos. Mainly because I can't afford them and I'm a bit of a wuss. I don't judge other people who do though.

littlefrog3 · 09/03/2017 19:34

What would you rather they spent their money on then allcoatandnofur?

BitchQueen90 · 09/03/2017 19:34

Well that's strange. Because as a single parent you HAVE to go back to work when your youngest child reaches 5 years of age. So either this thread is rubbish or she has a good reason to be on benefits.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 09/03/2017 19:35

Call me whatever you like. I've had it all on this thread - is there an insult you haven't thrown at me? Probably not. But I'd rather be all these things and worse than an entitled, lazy, selfish, shit mother. If you think she's right to spend her benefits on herself while the kids go without then I think it's YOU who has the problem.

OP. Why are you even friends with her then? Just delete her.