To ask about lady gardens?

[StressedOutbyMuppets]

I promise I'm no troll, and I'm asking here as I don't have such a wide audience to ask IRL...

I'm going through a divorce, but have met someone I potentially would possibly consider sleeping with at some point soon if things progress and am literally tripping myself up over wondering what's expected "down there"

Makes it worse that he's a little (not by anything scandalous) younger and has a lot more experience than me

What's "the norm" in your thirties?

From what I've glimpsed of friends/family in changing rooms, hairiness is totally normal. We're older than OP, but DS1 in his 20s seems to think shaving is a bit old-fashioned. That's my take on what might be 'expected', but I think you should treat the problem as if you had a house to sell. Don't install features you might find hard to live with yourself just because some unknown buyer might prefer them.

My personal preference and my DP too is fully shaven, but it only feels good for the first day then it gets uncomfortable
I now use a bikini trimmer and trim it to very short and also like a pp use hair conditioner on the remaining hair ha!