To be a bit freaked out

[bibbetybobbetybooo]

Ok.. I know I shouldn't be, but tonight DS has toddled into our room and seen us doing, stuff! Not full sex, but masturbating and whilst I don't think he saw much, I'm massively weirded out by it.
I'm being daft, right?!

Woah littlefrog there's having an opinion and then there's being boardrline aggressive with it. Calm down!

littlefrog3 You fully deserve to be jumped on when you present your "opinion" in such an over the top, hysterical manner.

My 7 year old sister walked in on my aunt and uncle on holiday once. Rented farmhouse, aunt asked to be told when her croissants were done. Sister sent to tell them, sister saw everything. Aunt told my mum and sister never said anything. Cue family party many, many years later, playing some guessing game where the word to be guessed was Croissants, and the clue given was "(sisters name) at the farm!" and "Croissants" shouted back :P Sister had no idea the entire family knew and it became a bit of a standing family joke since. As did the fact i managed to shit in said aunts pocket at same said farm a few years prior to the croissant incident when my nappy failed whilst she was holding me. Apparently put her hand in her coat pocket some hours later to find a surprise.
I walked in on my parents as an older teen, dad was up off the bed shutting door on me before i saw anything in detail but it was a quick enough flash to register they were having sex without remembering any actual imagery.

Oh FFS report me then if you're so precious and think my post is disgusting!
I'm the precious one?

What can you remeber from when you were 3 op? Not much I'm guessing! Especially when you were half asleep. I think its worse having a lock on the door as you might not hear him if something was wrong with the door locked. You havn't done him any damage. Perfect the art of quiet shagging and have a blanket close to pull over you if the worst happens.

He's three, he won't have a clue what you were doing, you were covered up and he won't remember a thing. It's fine, honestly.

OP clearly isn't OK with just shagging in front of her kids though is she? Accidents happen and she is clearly embarrassed. She hasn't done it on purpose.

Anyone who couldn't look their own child in the eye if they'd been caught having sex has way bigger issues if you ask me - it's embarrassing but sex isn't that shameful!

It won't be the last time, he will be fine. We've had DD2 back from uni for a few days so have chosen not to (it's worse when they know what you're doing believe me!)

Thank you, pretty much everyone. I feel much better now! Croissants! That's put a smile on my face.
We don't think he really saw anything - just was a bit of a shock when I saw a little face at the door. He's never tried to get over the baby gate, so that's now going to have to come down as he could do himself more damage by climbing over it.

This happened to us recently with our 9 year old. It was midnight and the door was shut. I don't think he's going to be scarred for life as he is quite streetwise... he laughed at the memory when he brought it up a couple of weeks later and made it clear he knew exactly what we were doing 😂. Least said, soonest mended, was our approach!

While I wouldn't dream of intentionally risking my children seeing or hearing it, a one-off accident is - in my opinion - no huge deal. Sex is part of a loving relationship and that is not a damaging thing for children to know.

Get a door wedge op cheap and cheerful no need for DIY, just kick to corner when not in use

Kids minds are innocent, he won't have a clue what you were up to because he won't know what sex is or that it exists

Why the hell would you want your kids seeing you FF?!

Who said that they wanted their children to see them having sex, frog? Can you quote the post? I can't find it anywhere and I'm sure you realise that's quite a serious accusation to level at somebody because that would actually be non contact sexual abuse

I think it's much more dangerous to have a lock on your bedroom door with small children in the house. If you forgot to unlock it before going to sleep and there was a problem in the night then a very small child might be unable to wake you. I certainly don't know of anyone who locks their bedroom door and I think you might find yourself in the minority there littlefrog.

I'm actually very angry with littlefrog's comments.
I'll reiterate, as stated in my original post, that THIS WAS NOT INTENTIONAL.

We have a baby gate and he managed to get out of his room for the first time, which was unfortunately bad timing.

Don't think he saw anything - just made me feel embarrassed.

I do not appreciate words being put into my mouth.

I am still entitled to my views

And others are entitled to disagree, little frog. It's called discussion.

I think a door stop would definitely be a better (and safer) option. Having a locked door doesn't sit well with me with a young child in the house. If he needs us and we forget to unlock the door, that'd be awful.

Apologies for going off on one, and my 'glad you're OK with your kids seeing you having sex' comment was out of order.

However, the OP didn't mention the child's age and the baby gate in her first post. She didn't mention that til AFTER I had posted my opinions. (WHY do people drip feed? Why?) And also when someone said 'take no notice of littlefrog' that got my back up. That is so rude to dismiss my opinions.

So although I apologise for going OTT, and my comment about 'not caring about your kids seeing you having sex' - I still stand by what I said in my first 2 posts (posts 5 and 6...)

Thank you, littlefrog. I appreciate that I didn't mention the babygate but I said 'toddled', so I assumed people would realise he was young! I posted when I was a bit freaked out by it all!
A lot of people wouldn't post an apology, so I appreciate that!

Sex or sexual stuff isn't disgusting and is perfectly normal.

With your dc being 3 like they even knew what you was up to and even if they were older honestly if the child walks in to a room and sees for a second I can't see it causing lasting harm

He won't know anything, OP. I would never have had a locked door between us and the children but we did put little jingly bells on their door frames so if any of them ever got up whilst we were, er, still awake, we heard them. Not loud enough to wake people, just loud enough to give a warning of incoming little one...

A door wedge might be risky in that a toddler may be able to put it in place when alone in the room.

To be honest I don't even think the age and toddler gate are relevant. A child walked in on their parents engaging in sexual activity - it's not the parents faults for not making sure the child didn't do it! DSD has never walked in on me and DH but as long as weren't at it right outside her door and were in our own room, I wouldn't blame ourselves or feel we could have prevented it in any way other than abstinence...I sure as hell wouldn't be locking our door every time we have sex and I'm sure most other people wouldn't either.

You're welcome bibbety Sorry for being a cow. I do have my moments, and I did feel really jumped on. So I over-reacted ... As I said, I was just responding to your original post where you hadn't mentioned the baby gate and the age.

At such a small age, your LO won't remember what he saw anyway.

Sorry again.

I think jingle bells are a fantastic idea!

We all have our mad cow moments, littlefrog! At least you weren't some evil inciteful troll. I really do appreciate your apology.

Hopefully it'll never happen again! With a baby who hardly sleeps, plus the little Houdini child, I doubt we'll be doing much again in a hurry (oh - plus the manchild husband who doesn't always deserve it...!)

I think your reaction here is also important though, if you act normal and as if nothing happened it'll be forgotten sooner. If he catches the thought that it's something "naughty" you two were doing he'll be more curious to find out what/why (or mine would be anyway).