To put DS in a cupboard?

[Aliveinwanderland]

I know I am... but oh dear god the whining.

He is 4 months old, woke up crying several times in night, cried non stop from 2-3:30am and now is whining because he is tired but he won't go down for a nap! He doesn't like being cuddled or comforted so very little I can do when he cries to make it better.

Today is going to be a long day.

Well we survived the day. Much more grumbles than usual and several meltdowns whereas a week ago we had smiles all day and he never cried! Hoping it's just a phases and doesn't last long!

DH late home so I'm flying solo for bedtime. So far we have done bath fairly calmly and he threw a paddy when first put in the crib but has settled down now. Fingers crossed for a better night!

Fingers crossed you have a better night and get some rest. Everything is just a blooming phase so this too shall pass

"DS was just screaming non-stop into my face... I felt like he hated me"

This. I was not prepared for just how angry my DC sounded when they cried. I thought they'd sound sad or plaintive or helpless. No - my babies sounded furious. It made it harder to want to nurture them.

OP glad your day got better. I do think that "grizzling" or as you say "grumbling" are less emotive words. But I guess it depends on how you interpret those words.

Personally, when a toddler whines at me, it puts me in a very negative frame of mind. I can handle grizzling though with earplugs

We're having a bad day today again. He was up every hour all night and has cried on and off most of the day. Finally settled and has napped in my arms for an hour and half which isn't like him at all, he never usually wants to be held.

Maybe try some calpol if he seems out of sorts?. I'm sorry you're having a hard time, your arms must be aching!

I did calpol and teething gel and neither seemed to work. He slept on me for 2.5 hours and then was much happier when he woke up. However an hour later and he was back to fussy and crying again. I think he is really tired and because he isn't sleeping well at night he is overtired during the day.

I am going to see how he does tomorrow and then will see the GP later in the week if he doesn't pick up as he is very out of sorts.

Did you say he's had a cold? He might have an ear infection - DS is 2 and had an ear infection a few weeks ago, he didn't really show any signs except excessive grumpiness and whinging, but then his eardrum perforated - we only realised because the pus leaked out in his bed. He was back to normal after that because the pain was gone. We had him checked by the GP, who said to keep his ear dry for a couple of weeks to let it heal.

Yeh he has had a cold and cough. I will get the GP to check his ears tomorrow. We've just had full on hysterics at bed time, screaming and won't be comforted. DH calmed him down eventually by taking off his sleepsuit and putting the lights on so now trying to restart the bedtime routine.

Poor baby! And poor you :( Will he co-sleep as a one off? That's what we resorted to when DS was poorly. Normally he's very happy in his own bed.

Yes we often end up cosleeping. He is in a bedside crib but often ends up in bed with us due to my exhaustion as he has always woken every 2 hours all night anyway!

DD once cried for 9 hours straight as a baby. Only thing that interrupted her was feeds (short ones only accepted by her) and brief naps of 10-15 mins. Took her to walk in centre as was worried sick and at wits end to be told "ooo she's fine you've just got a crier" She grew out of it eventually but I feel your pain. Her bladder is still too close to her eyes. It does get better. Promise.

Lock him in the garage. You won't hear him from there!

Seriously OP; I do feel for you, but this whiney phase will pass, and your DS will be a bouncy and fun little boy before you know it!

Wishing you well.