Am I just a horrid atrocious bitch or something ?

[Birdsbeesandtrees]

Or do people really put up with some crap ?

I read so many thread on here about things and I think "Christ I wouldn't put up with that"

Not any specific thread - usually ones about outrageous behaviour from others to the OP and often there are similar stories from posters who reply and I just sit there going that

a. People behave like that and
b. Other people let them/ say nothing but fume about it.

Especially the MIL ones. I don't mean I'd be awful but I just wouldn't tolerate being spoken to like that or the kinds of behaviour mentioned.

I have a mum that is quite passive aggressive in the same vein about many things. I just call her on it.

You know things like " well this is my house mum and I do things this way because I want to." When she interferes.
Or

"That's nice but we have decided to do x"

She did have a go at trying to tell me what furniture I should buy for my house and I just asked her who was paying and who's house it was for and she soon shut up.

Am I unusually assertive ? or a bitch

Dear OP! I'm with you. Some of these threads about dear oh forgetting my birthday or not doing their share or crap crap crap it just gets on my last bloody nerve! If my oh was like this he wouldn't be my dh

I'm with you OP!

I read some of the posts and just roll my eyes. Grow some balls and say 'no' or whatever the situation calls for. Sometimes it's not even a case of needing to grow some balls, or needing to be confrontational. It's just a matter of common sense. It's not causing "a fuss", or being confrontational or rude to just politely stick up for yourself.

I'm not from the UK (though have visited quite a few times), so from an outsider's perspective I'm not sure whether this is a British thing, or confined mainly to mumsnet.

To add.

Sometimes posters ask if it would be unreasonable to say something to their partner or parent about X. I think it you can't say those things to your partner or parent, then who can you say them too?

I'm with you, too, OP. I'm probably a terrifying bitch...

I always think the same when I read these types of post but then remember that I'm terrified of confrontation unless it's through technology so would probably put up with it too i once had a huge argument with a housemate completely over face book messenger when we were in desperate rooms ( she ended up crying but tbh she deserves it 100% I have been assured) but when she had a row with my friends I stood there frozen like a pillock so who knows .... we never know what we'll do unless we're in the situation x

Although when it comes to DP I never fail to stick up for myself or tell him when I'm pissed ... I guess because I trust that we'll always make up or that he won't be toooo hurt by me

I'm not assertive. When people are rude to me, my mind goes blank. But if push comes to shove, I'm a mega bitch.