To not let the dc choose who shares a room in new house?

[Emeraldie]

We have 3ds's aged 10, 8 and 1. Currently in a 2 bed house...ds1 and 2 share a room and ds3 is still in his cot with me and Dh ATM.

We're about to move to a 3 bed house. It has one very large double, one average double and one large single bedroom. Dh and I have discussed and thought we'd give ds1 and 2 the large double, we'd have the other and ds3 the single.

Ds1 and 2 are not happy. Ds1 is desperate to have his own room and wants the single. And ds2 really wants to share with ds3.

We've said no and much begging and pleading has ensued from ds1 and 2.

Aibu to insist they share? ATM ds2 is completely happy to share with ds3 but it's a novelty which I'm certain will wear off...not many 12 year olds will be thrilled to share with a 5 year old who may mess with their stuff and have big plastic toys everywhere. I don't think it will be fair on ds1 to give him his own room and then force him out of it when the novelty of sharing with a baby wears off for ds2.

All round it's just much more practical for the older boys to share.

Would you put your foot down from the off or let them share as they want with the knowledge you'll probably be switching rooms around in the near future?

Can you have the large double and divide the small double for DS1 & 2 instead? If it's more easily divided?

I wouldn't let the younger two share -- what happens as the youngest goes through toddler phases and the other is a preteen?

Plus, if ds2 changes his mind and then you make ds1 and ds2 share, ds2 appears to be the bad guy vs you. Could put strain on the relationship between ds1 and ds2.

You're the adult, you ultimately decide.

I would have DH and I in the double and give the 2 oldest the large double.

Ds1 is now protesting that he wants to stay in whatever room he starts in and it's not fair to give him the single if he may have to move
This would be the clincher for me and I'd be saying 'ok then...' and putting him in with DS2 !

Ds1 is now protesting that he wants to stay in whatever room he starts in and it's not fair to give him the single if he may have to move
This would be the clincher for me and I'd be saying 'ok then...' and putting him in with DS2 !

They all sleep in the large room and the single is a study/play area.

Is there no way of knocking the walls down to make 1 double and 3 singles? Or as PP suggested, converting attic?

How about DS 2 and DS 3 share the single as a sleeping area. DS1 sleeps in the large room and there are separate areas in there for study/play and DS2 can switch into there when the gap is too great with the baby. It could have a spare bed doubling up as a couch. I always banned themed rooms as tastes change and they become babyish. Duvet covers fine; curtains, wallpaper not