AIBU To think this is a bit of a violation

[RexMyDarling]

So I'm in hospital I had major stomach surgery on Tuesday that means I've been opened up through the whole of my abdomen. On one side I hav a stoma and on the other side I had a massive hernia repaired. As a result of this I've been on a catheter since and no knickers just a hospital gown.

So a male doctor/surgeon comes to see me today and gets me to stand up from the chair and lift my gown without allowing me to cover up my lower half. When I attempt to cover myself up he tells me 'no' as he wants to see the site of the hernia as well.

I feel really crap about this that I just stood there in front of him with my bush hanging out and feel really humiliated. Am I being oversensitive? Overreacting? Unreasonable? Should I complaint to PALS?

R0tring badly worded, it's dehumanising not to explain and gain consent. Must read what I'm writing

Great post @lougle

I just wanted to say my dp had a stoma a few years ago. I found him and his body and 'steve the stoma' as attractive and as desirable as before. It's just you mentioned that no one would look at you that way post op.

It feels like a massive, horrible thing right now I know. And probably contributing to how you feel about the doctors examination of you. But honestly in a few weeks it will just be part of you. It becomes a bit like san pro. A bit annoying and a bit yucky at times but most of the time you will forget it's there. and and for you. The wine is because beer can be a mild laxative according to the stoma nurse so useful for obvious reasons.