To wonder if anyone else is like me (weight loss)

[wildpoppiesanddaisies]

Every day starts with good intentions.

Nearly every day ends with a shit load of fattening food

I have to shift 5 stone but it's not happening - I'm just getting fatter and I'm actually scared where it may end!

Yup. Two stone ( at least) to lose. Do really well all day, exercise, soup for lunch etc etc then I fuck it all up with crisps and a glass of wine in the evening. I second the fruit idea. If I have to pass the fruitbowl on the way to the crisp cupboard I occasionally manage to summon the willpower to have a banana instead. Sometimes I have a banana but follow it up with crisps ten minutes later anyway.

1 stone to get to a healthy BMI (I know it's controversial) and at least the same again to be mid-range.

I am hovering around 13 stone at the moment - I keep remembering that used to be 14!

I did the Cambridge diet for a bit.

you are not alone op, eg me sat here with large glass of not helping weight loss, I can't seem to resist the shit calorific food... I need to be locked away from it all for a month or so I will persist though, I eat breakfast and lunch and dinner is nearly always healthy but it's the evening snacking or the wine that gets me, it does not help that I'm basically a smurf so being overweight is really not a good look!

That's interesting, thenewaveragebear I've often felt that my late evening carb cravings are some sort of addictive frenzy that seems to come from the carbs themselves. I'll have a biscuit, and it's like that biscuit then issues a cry of panic to all the other biscuits/pastries in the house to come and join it... really weird.

Is carb addiction a "thing?"

I find it easier in the day but as the evening hits after a healthy supper, I have the most terrible craving for carbs and sugar and will think nothing of polishing off a tin of rice pudding, couple of packs of quavers and possibly 2 or 3 penguin biscuits 😐😐

Hugs OP. It's very difficult. I have lost just over 2st from may last year doing sw and still have another 2 to go.

What works for me is meal planning and making me a priority. So instead of spending 20 minutes at lunchtime tidying around or doing some admin or for someone else I make sure I take the time to make a nice salad or soup or something.

I don't particularly have a sweet tooth but I have nice yoghurt if I do fancy something sweet. And some rasperries or blackberries the dcs aren't allowed to eat.

I try and eat lots of veg and salad and fruit if I fancy it. Eggs are very filling for lunch.

But if I really, genuinely want a treat I have it. But I mostly don't these days as my tastes have changed.

You do have to put your own health and happiness first though. There has been plenty of times dp has wanted a takeaway or something and been miffed when I haven't but I refuse to compromise my health to satisfy his urge for a kebab!

last night I ate a whole pack of butterscotch angel delight the craving struck and I couldn't resist.. and if the food is not in the house my cravings just get worse for it.

For me, yes. I was a total carb addict. Slimming world didn't help because of all the snacking on fruit etc. There's real science behind it, linked to insulin and how your body works when you eat sugars (so any carbs. Not just hobnobs!) and for me it was a life changing read. I did 8 weeks on the blood sugar diet and lost 21lb, fell off the wagon and regained a stone but now I'm back on it again. The biggest change for me is snacking on protein rather than carbs (so boiled egg rather than banana etc). I don't know if it would work for everyone and I don't want to sound preachy but it really is a way of eating that has worked for me.

struggle so much. today i feel like there's no point in starting because i always fuck up. but I'm scared of getting health problems relating to my weight especially now I'm getting older. Single parent with SEN son. I don't want to leave him alone, then feel angry with myself that I don't have the willpower to do it. Such a vicious circle

Struggling here too and I need to lose 4-5 stone. I do well for a couple of days and then it all goes to pot and I end up gaining anything I had lost. I decided to give up sugar (not sweetener or natural sugars in fruit) for Lent though and because it's for a determined period of time and others around me are giving up something too I am finding I have the determination to stick to it. HOWEVER.,...it is only day 2 and I have found it extremely hard. I have a huge addiction to sweets and I even dreamed about them last night and ended up sleepwalking looking for something important - bet it was sweets!! I fight an hourly battle with myself. I only get my fuel at the pay at the pump stations now so that I don't have to walk into the shop and see temptation. I even avoid having loose change in my purse so that I can't use the vending machine at work! There's chocolate in the fridge and my toddlers were trying to feed theirs to me today but I am determined that no sugary food is going to pass my lips until Lent is over. After that I am hoping that I have kicked my addiction and it wont' be so hard

I get totally random cravings at times, like how I really fancy a cheese and pickle sandwich!!

I think a huge part of it is thinking you can't have it. It just makes your inner child stamp her foot and demand it. So many times I've found myself eating some shit that I really didn't want - and didn't actually enjoy. But as soon as you think you can't have that piece of cake, for some reason it's all you want.

OMG Music i LOVE butterscotch angel delight and can easily have a whole sachet. i add LESS milk so the taste is stronger too when whisking it up

thewholeplacestinks that is exactly what I do thought I was the only one I do the same with the chocolate one.. I like it thicker and stronger.. arghhh drinking knowing I've got some packets in the cupboard is killing me right now

I can relate to this and have lost then gained for years. I'm currently losing weight for an operation which is very motivating. Wagging is helping me is being able to track the calories I burn each day so I can adjust my food intake to get the defecit I want that day. On a hungry day I eat more then have les on another day.

Nothing is banned and I have it if I want it but over time am finding I want sugary things less most of the time. I have found the time of day I walk is important, I am much better getting my exercise done during the morning whereas I used to constantly fail in the evening as was too tired. Being able to see how much I move , or didn't move at weekends was an eye opener.

It remains to be seen if I do crack it this time but I feel less like I'm dieting and less of that being either on or off the diet thing that I personally used to find quite destructive I realise with hindsight.

i find i go through phases of being good made easier when i am very busy with work. I tend to lose weight and then dd is off school for ie a week (half term) and then it all goes back on (and some) as we go out and about and cake always gets involved, especially if we go to town (patisserie valerie, krispy kremes to name but a few). i by chance have recently stumbled on a near by cafe that sells lovely beigels and cake. I now find i have serious cravings to go there and as i am not busy with work it is impossible to diet. I have high cholesterol and am due to have a yearly check soon. I know it is made worse by sugar rather than fats and it is sugar that i have a real problem with . The first thing that hits me in the morning when i open my eyes is the guilt of eating ie half a pack of plain digestives the night before, it is overwhelming. I do go to the gym a few times a week but i can't really see any developed muscle tone through my rolls of fat on my tummy..

Some really helpful resources for those of us who do the pointless eating thing:
www.eatlikeanormalperson.com/how-to-stop-overeating/

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B014V1Q6SI/ref=tmm_kin_title_0?ie=UTF8&qid=1488492456&sr=8-4&tag=mumsnetforum-21

The kindle version of the book is free at the moment.

Both these give a different way of looking at things and have really helped me stop eating rubbish

I have started my healthy eating again today. I lost two stone in 2015 and have mostly maintained that weight, but I still have about 9lbs to lose and the effects of cake, chocolate and general crap have hit lately and I'm feeling sluggish.
Evenings are my worst. I love chocolate and I have an addiction. If I don't eat it for a few days I get over it and don't want it so much. Ordinarily I just wouldn't buy the stuff and then I can't eat it, but we have a house full at the moment so it's really tested my will power!
As it was a last minute decision to start today and so I hadn't planned meals in advance, I managed to scrape together 50 spare calories for something this evening. I have had a portion of Graze apple crisps at 47 calories. It helped with the sugar cravings until dp sat next to me and ate an Oreo chocolate bar. I'm sure I'll get into it again and will just stop buying the rubbish food and then I can't eat it. If dp or ds want a snack they'll have to eat fruit until I have more self control .

Thanks averagebear that's really helpful.

I remember giving up smoking last century and the cravings feel very similar to that... that "climbing the wall" feeling, going to the shop in a trance and buying croissants and biscuits and feeling like you're on a train you can't get off.

I should read more about gut health in general. I'm sure I read somewhere that gut bacteria get "hooked" on carbs/sugar and that's something that contributes to this systemic craving. But that could be misremembered guff due to a bread coma...

Me too. I expect to lose weight because I've thought about how good I'll be.

Same here. I have 3 stone to lose. Mmit isn't that every day ends with shitty food, but rather the difference in losing or gaining weight seems to be an average of 1400cals per day compared to an average of 1600cals per day. It doesn't seem to take much to gain so I tend to spend the next week losing it again. And so the cycle continues.

Just picked up that free book SlightlyPerturbed linked to (thank you!) and there was a link to "10% Human" (about the human microbiome and its effect on our wellbeing) so have picked that up as well!

I'll have a biscuit, and it's like that biscuit then issues a cry of panic to all the other biscuits/pastries in the house to come and join it.

Love it. We all know that feeling!

I was doing so well just over a year ago I was jogging and eating well and the weight was slowly starting to drop, but then I fucked twisted my ankle which took ages to heal and then I just couldn't get back into it and when I wanted to my trainers went to shit, so now I need new ones, I know I could exercise at home, but I find that really difficult motivation wise, also I wish I had someone I could do it with but I don't have any friends that I can got to the gym with or exercise with all by myself

Have you tried the 5:2 fasting diet? that worked for me recently as it is only 2 days dieting per week... although they are v hungry days