To wonder why he was on and off Whatsapp until 4 am

[yessir]

Please go easy on me.
Met him year ago on chat site .
He swears his love for me I really love him he is the sweetest man I ever knew.
Its long distance he comes to see me every weekend after 6 hard days at work.
Texts me every day video calls me each night saying he wants to see me misses me.
Its all very nice.
Earleir days of relationship I caught him out on chat site but I put it behind me.
Last night I noticed he was on and off whatsapp until 4 am.
He has 2 whatsapp for some reason one he sends me stuff on other one he was on and off.

Am I being possessive.

I honestly think you should break up with him. Even if you confronted him and he gave a plausible explanation, would you believe him?

You know I caught him out on other messaging site some time ago.
Next thing I had notification he was back on this site with new id

What kind of chat site?
And why did yu get notification he was back on the site?

Seriously - if you're this suspicious now, and you're sneaking around checking on your bf, then finish it. No good for anyone. And get help for your jealousy issues.

This relationship even if it has any potential isn't going anywhere while you feel this need to check his activity.

OP, I've said it before, and got shot down, go with your gut, if you smell a rat, there generally, (generally being the operative word,) is one.

None of us know if he is talking to other women or if he has a whole other life with a wife and kids we also don't know if he gets dressed up as Batman and fights crime all week.
It's obvious you want answers but we don't have them, I'm not even sure if you have the questions.
It shouldn't be this hard and you shouldn't feel this way, if it's his fault or yours life is too short.
If I was you I would end it and work on my own trust issues then try again with someone else.

Maybe he was checking what you were doing on WhatsApp at 4am!

Seriously though, it doesn't sound like you have a healthy level of trust in your relationship. You either need to speak to him and overcome this together or get rid and work towards building a healthy trusting relationship with someone else (for sure easier said than done).

Op, I would trust your instinct on this.

It is not making you crazy, as you put it. You can't blame his phone use for your own issues.
Maybe he shut the phone screen off with WhatsApp running so every time he switches the screen on to check the time, it says he's been active on WhatsApp? And maybe his neighbours were being noisy, he had a cough, whatever, he woke at 4am to check the time.

It would frustrate me no end to be with someone so possessive and paranoid that you're treated as a guilty suspect despite doing everything you can (travelling, texting, working) to treat someone well.
What is the point for him if you could randomly dump him out of the blue for something you've speculated?

Will he not wonder why you were on Whatsapp at 4am?

Why were you on whatsapp at 4am? For all you know, he could be calling his mates worried about you! I wouldn't worry about it.

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Your gut instinct is talking to you , LOUDLY. He has history. I'm really surprised at some of the responses in here. This is not your issue it just became one for BOTH of you due to his past history. Trust is not easily replaced. If he cared he would be sensitive to this and drop his chatting at crazy hours of the night. Because it is , chatting at 4am?? Who does that? Chatting to family or friends at 4am?? BS. I would look for a pattern, you have good reason to be suspicious, however, it's not worth disturbing your peace of mind, I don't know if anyone in here has heard of narcissism, or other forms of mental issues that exist , one thing for sure, this lady is right to listen to her instinct. If a guy is really committed this late night chatting shouldn't even exist.

Maybe he was watching you online at 4am.. perhaps he was speaking to nobody, and you were both doing the same thing.. watching and wondering why the other was ‘online’ at 4am