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To wonder why he was on and off Whatsapp until 4 am

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yessir · 01/03/2017 10:27

Please go easy on me.
Met him year ago on chat site .
He swears his love for me I really love him he is the sweetest man I ever knew.
Its long distance he comes to see me every weekend after 6 hard days at work.
Texts me every day video calls me each night saying he wants to see me misses me.
Its all very nice.
Earleir days of relationship I caught him out on chat site but I put it behind me.
Last night I noticed he was on and off whatsapp until 4 am.
He has 2 whatsapp for some reason one he sends me stuff on other one he was on and off.

Am I being possessive.

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:00

I am making myself bad screw

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itcuddles · 01/03/2017 11:00

You can only have one whatsapp account linked to a mobile number. His his second one linked to a work phone?

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:01

tell me please
Can a man really love you but just use chat sites to chill and be addicted

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:02

Has far as I know he only takes the one phone everywhere

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:03

He appear to be the most wonderfull man

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DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 01/03/2017 11:03

Friends in different zones, that's a plausible reason to be on Whatsapp so late.
Going by what you have said about catching him on a chat site a while ago though must make you wonder.

Long distance is challenging from viewpoint of gaps between meeting. You probably don't want to spoil the mood when you do see him by challenging him.

But if you are worried he is getting twitchy why not ask upfront are we still good together (or along those lines).
Anything else suggesting he is distracted from you? Longer gaps between messages? Cancelling plans at short notice? Vagueness about making future dates?

itcuddles · 01/03/2017 11:04

If its chat sites for online dating then no, they definitely aren't for 'chilling'. I'd cut this guy loose if he's making you feel this anxious. Is this really the type of relationship you want?

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:05

He makes the journey every Saturday by train 120miles to come and see me goes home sunday night never looses me down.

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:06

Say he cant wait to see me

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:07

he admits he used to have dirty talk

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:08

held my hand some time ago showed me his kik and said I have chatted but never met anyone

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:09

says I have lovely lady no need

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TheOnlyLivingBoyinNewCork · 01/03/2017 11:09

You can only have one whatsapp account linked to a mobile number. His his second one linked to a work phone?

Yes but you can have a dual sim phone with a number for each sim.

Euripidesralph · 01/03/2017 11:10

In terms of the what's app I'm often on and off mine at odd hours , I use it for work and personal and my work means often things happen at odd hours , or I'll have forgotten to reply to a message and it'll occur to me randomly in the night

I do understand you are worried but you do need to consider how this comes across....if you have real reason to believe he cheats then absolutely get rid

However if this is your head ....be aware Ivery dumped men and friends for doing things like this (checking times I'm on things etc) ithe really makes me feel stifled and constrained ....you could end up causing a bigger problem

Saying that. ...dating chat sites an absolute no ....but a new possible relationship of mine is on and off forums on steam ....it wouldn't occur to me to be concerned and frankly it's probably at odd hours and I find that fine

Basically you need more info but be careful of accusing

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 01/03/2017 11:10

120 miles, sounds like he's keen, but if you are fretting he is up to something it could be interplanetary travel but would still mean little if you are unhappy and suspicious.

EverythingEverywhere1234 · 01/03/2017 11:11

Honestly, I am struggling to make sense of your posts. Is this the gist?
-You've had a history of being cheated on
-You've been with current DP for a year
-He comes to see you every weekend, despite working 6 days a week
-He is attentive and loving
-He was on and off of Whatsapp until the early hours
-You were checking up on him
-You say he has friends in different time zones

I would say from the above that you need counselling of some kind to deal with your jealousy issues and you need to back off a bit from him. That's my immediate reaction.
When I am unable to sleep, I flick on and off of various apps (snapchat, whatsapp, facebook, instagram etc) so I wouldn't read too much into that tbh.

OnionKnight · 01/03/2017 11:12

You cannot have two WhatsApp accounts on one phone unless he using a jailbroken iPhone or he's deliberately hacked his Android device.

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:15

Someone told me to contact him on different whatsapp and see how he responds.
Something is stopping me.
One I feel awful treating him like it because I love him, the other I cant face what I may find

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:16

They said if he flirts dump him

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OnionKnight · 01/03/2017 11:17

He'll know that it's you if you contact him, unless you have another number as well.

You sound very paranoid.

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:17

I would need different sim different phone

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:17

yes it would be another number

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:18

Jesus its making me crazy

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:20

You know I caught him out on other messaging site some time ago.
Next thing I had notification he was back on this site with new id

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yessir · 01/03/2017 11:21

He probably wouldn't have known that because his number in my phone that I would get that notification

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