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AIBU?

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Party on Mothering Sunday

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Sparklycurtainpole · 28/02/2017 10:56

Close to us is a kids' play centre which throws great parties. You have to book almost a year in advance to get a slot though as it's so popular.
A family member who is notoriously disorganised told me the other week that she had yet to organise her DS birthday party and had no idea what to do.
Anyway, yesterday we got an invite to the party and it's on Mothering Sunday 11-1 at the play centre.
I asked family member if she had realised the date and she said she'd phoned on the off chance and the centre told her they had space that day because it was mothers' day.
AIBU to think this is a bit 'off'?
Not only will the mums of the attending kids not get family time but the timing of the party is likely to prevent quite a lot of people celebrating with or visiting their own mums.
We feel as if we have to go as it's a very close family member and my kids would be really sad not to join the birthday boy to celebrate his birthday (and DP and I obviously) . However my DP works away (often over weekends) and I was really looking forward to spending a special day with just him and our kids together and then visiting our own respective mums.
Any opinions? I know it means some mums might love their OH to take the kids instead and give them a break but what about lone parents or like me, parents whose partners are usually away?
Am i being a bit of a birthday grump or is this totally fine?
Oh, and DS birthday is not til almost five weeks after the party date!

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heateallthebuns · 28/02/2017 10:57

It wouldn't bother me, it's only a couple of hours out of the day.

lougle · 28/02/2017 10:58

It's 2 hours. You can still have lunch together, or dinner, and you can still visit your respective mums.

Dragonglass · 28/02/2017 10:59

It wouldn't bother me. Mother's day isn't really a big deal.

PurpleDaisies · 28/02/2017 10:59

I can't get excited about this. It's two hours.

Sunbeam18 · 28/02/2017 10:59

Seriously? I wouldn't consider this as issue

JaxingJump · 28/02/2017 10:59

It's Mothering Sunday, not your wedding. If you have lunch plans either move them to after 1 or miss the party. I think it's totally fine. I'd still be glad of having somewhere for the kids to go play on that day.

elQuintoConyo · 28/02/2017 11:00

It is two hours.

I would go.

I find mothers day like valentines day - celebrate me everyday, not just the day society tells me too.

Pick me flowers from the woods. Scribble me a card and cover it and the dog in glitter glue. Share your Smarties with me.

I'm not one for breakfast in bed and being treated like a princess for the day.

LemonBreeland · 28/02/2017 11:00

It wouldn't bother me massively, but the timing could have been a bit better. She may end up with a lot of people saying no if they already have plans.

Chocolatecake12 · 28/02/2017 11:00

It's 2 hours in the middle of the day. You can have a nice breakfast in the morning or plan a nice lunch or dinner.
Do you actually have to spend the whole day celebrating being a mother? Could you just not spend the day enjoying being a mother and do those things that mothers do - like put your child first.
I seriously do not see the issue. YABU

justnowords · 28/02/2017 11:01

wouldnt bother me neither, would just make plans around the party. After all its only 2 hours.

I8toys · 28/02/2017 11:01

Its a Hallmark celebration - doesn't really mean anything.

harderandharder2breathe · 28/02/2017 11:01

Either go or don't go. It's your choice. Other people will make their choice which may be different to yours or the same. The party may be less well attended than it normally would but better than nothing

NutBiscuit · 28/02/2017 11:02

My DS's party is booked for Mothers Day, 11:15 to 12:45. I did have concerns about booking it on Mothers Day but figured people would have the whole afternoon free still. Of the 50 (gulp) children invited only 7 have declined so far. 10 left to respond, so it seems as though the date has not been as off-putting to others as I thought it might have been.

I think you're being A little U but only because I personally don't make a huge deal about Mothers Day. I know to lots of people it IS a big deal, and so their responses may be different

iamapixiebutnotaniceone · 28/02/2017 11:02

It wouldn't bother me, but then we do things a bit backwards for Mother's Day. I usually treat my children rather than them treating me. Their dad gets me something and I get a break from cooking/cleaning but I make a big fuss of them 💗

namechange20050 · 28/02/2017 11:02

Wouldn't bother me at all. It's just another day.

GraceGrape · 28/02/2017 11:02

I get a card on Mother's Day then we carry on as usual. I would imagine it's the same for a lot of people. If it's a particularly special day within your family then don't go to the party, but I don't think it's unreasonable to hold it then

Bantanddec · 28/02/2017 11:09

It's just another bullshit day brought to you by consumerism

SomethingBorrowed · 28/02/2017 11:13

This would annoy me, and I wouldn't go, I would say I already have plans as it is Mother's day...

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Sparklycurtainpole · 28/02/2017 11:14

Thanks.
Thought I might be tending towards the side of 'birthday grump'.
Think it's more to do with the fact that a nice family day seeing both grannies and spending time together is now going to be a bit of a rush.
Mother's Day isn't really a massive deal for me but it is for my mum. We can change the plans we had but I think I'm more cross that out notoriously disorganised family member has meant that (once again) we've all had to alter arrangements as she's been a bit ditzy.
Thanks for the clarity folks.
👍

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Allthebestnamesareused · 28/02/2017 11:27

Fabulous - DH can take the kids off to a party while Mum gets 2 hours to herself!

If you are that keen on family meals etc you'll still be able to have a nice evening meal and its late enough for them to have made breakfast in bed!

Teasgonecoldagain · 28/02/2017 11:28

I am glad of the replies on here saying it is not a big deal as I just booked a party on the same day at a soft play...I wondered if this was about me but the timings are different.
I thought that maybe mums might like to sit down and have a coffee for a couple of hours whilst the kids get fed (hot meal) and entertained!

I don't think I am notoriously disorganised though...just very busy and although I did mean to get something booked earlier, this year seems to have whizzed by so far and cannot believe it is March tomorrow!

IamFriedSpam · 28/02/2017 11:30

It wouldn't even occur to me to be honest. I think for most people mother's day is just a card and maybe a nice lunch/dinner together. It's not like it's christmas day. Obviously if you've already got plans that day you could always politely decline birthday invite surely.

Vegansnake · 28/02/2017 11:31

Drop and run.have 2 hours to yrself on Mother's Day.perfect

TheOnlyLivingBoyinNewCork · 28/02/2017 11:32

I would barely even notice, tbh. And I wouldn't consider it when booking either.
If it doesn't suit your plans, don't go. Other than that it has nothing at all to do with you who booked what, where, when or why.

Catsize · 28/02/2017 11:33

l8toys, it is part of the ecclesiastical calendar - not just Hallmark's.

OP, I am with you. I think it is inappropriate.

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