To get annoyed when asked if I am "babysitting"?

[parentnotbabysitter]

When I tell people, mainly women but also men, that I have my DS to look after on my own as my wife is away working... more often than not I get... "ah, you babysitting?" Or "daddy day-care huh!?"

NO... it is called parenting!

I know just as much about my DS as my wife does... in fact, given her work patterns, sometimes in periods of change in his behaviour, I know more.

Annoying as hell!!

And by "dad" trophies... do you mean kids? If so... just one more!

Strange how throughout your posts you've taken it all seriously and openly ask people to discuss the issue, then you get a critical response and tell me I've taken the fun out of it...

Very odd. Oh well, bored Sunday night I suppose.

But it is just a non-response, not a critical one. "I want to be a SAHD" was a joke.

If I was a SAHD we wouldn't be able to do for our son what we do and plan to do.

I wish I was a SAHM but i couldn't afford it.

Aka freshloorollplease or something.

I am guilty of saying oh arent you so lucky dh is hands on. Why...? Because i think they are lucky. My poor dh works 7 days a week most of the time so cant. He would love to but has to work. Its not easy. Not all men do parenting much. A lot do but not all. And a lot dont want to do it either....

Just be happy you are a good dad and are able to parent your kids well.

OP I totally agree with you saying that dads describing themselves as babysitting their own children are the worst! My son-in-law says this when he looks after my DGD by himself once a year. And it really pisses me,and my DD off.

I don't like using "parent" as a verb.

I often used to say I was babysitting, in an ironic way, when my kids were small. I was a SAHM.

My husband and I have never encountered the kinds of sexist comments you describe, OP; I guess such comments might have enraged me more than hearing "parent" used as a verb, but they would have been easier to take the piss out of too.

Think sweat nailed this. OP, you are incredibly smug and we're not here to massage your ego.

What a fucking hero you are

I'd be interested to know how old you are OP and how old the people making these comments are. When i had my ds 13 years ago (admittedly in trendy sarf london) shared care or SAHD was very widespread. The only people I have known to make such comments or hold such attitudes are people in their 50s.

Did you come here to be told by a bunch of anonymous women amazing you are OP?

What do we think?

I, at least, think you seem really annoying.

I suspect you're not new to the site and know that this will get wide-spread approval. I'm sure you're equally aware that many people of either sex call it 'babysitting' or 'kid-duty' or what have you without getting too het up about it all.