OK. my in laws arrived on Thursday ( mother in law, sister in law her husband and their lovely 2 children ( 7yrs and 10 yrs). they live very far away so come to London 2 maybe 3 times a year. they were down for a few days and staying in a hotel not at our house. my husband said that the kids ( my niece and nephew would be staying for a sleep over on Friday. we have 2 kids the same age and they all get on brilliantly so I said that that would be great.
Friday comes- I found out that they will all be going out including my husband so really the sleep over is more over a would you babysit request. I didn't mind but I do wish it had been conveyed to me in that way. so Friday comes and they arrive at the house soon after I get back from work so chat for a while and to drop kids off. I make dinner while kids get ready and husband gets ready and then he leaves.
we have lovely evening kids go to bed really late as they are excited being with each other. now when we visit my mother in law the kids are always together , either in the grandmothers house or aunties house so sleep overs are common but I have never asked them to look after kids so I can go out. my husband may have as he often goes there with the kid but without me (maybe due to work or what ever).
he comes home about 2 in the morning. fine so far. however, next day he is hung over so doesn't help. there is no bread or milk in house but I give them toast and scones for breakfast. I take girls to shops and get back to make lunch. my niece and nephew don't like pasta or pizza so I suggest eggs on toast. hubby says he will get some bread/milk from shops. fist he offers to take my daughter to her club that she goes to on sat . I assume he will get the groceries after he drops her- its a 5 min car ride away. so we all wait at home. he doesn't come back for an hour as he drops her then goes to a café for tea maybe some lunch and then to read his book. then he picks her up and drives back home. I did not go to shops as I was expecting home to come home from shops. anyway it 3 by this time .
I rush out get food and make them lunch and inlaws come to ours at about 4. and they leave with kids at 6.
husband then goes to bed really early with out helping out- eg making dinner.
I feel pissed off - sister in law hasn't phoned to say thanks- got no help next day and I am not speaking to him as he thinks he has done nothing wrong AIBU ?