DH Instagram account WTF?

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AIBU to take it personally- So here I am three kids later a bit on the chunkier side and it's annoys me so much how my husband follows all these hot fitness models on Instagram. Is that what he finds sexy? Whoops that ain't me.

It's practically naked girls. Did I mention he doesn't instigate anything in the bed department? (That's another thread)
So cross and frustrated.

Before you ask, have spoken to him about this until I'm blue I the face!!!

Most men like looking at most women

YANBU in being upset but if you were happy in yourself and your relationship it wouldn't be so much of an issue. Treat the cause, not the symptom.

Why trudidoo?? Do it discreetly not like that. The fact that this has become the norm is so depressing

Serialweightwatcher

Yes they do!

sorry im confused u follow them aswell so whats the difference

how often is not often enough for sex anyway

DP knows I wouldn't mind if he wants to watch porn occasionally etc. I'm not personally interested in it.

I am sorry, but that sounds incredibly naive. Following sport people on social media has nothing to do with porn I assure you! (well, some followers might have a sexual reason, but not everybody does). I follow various male and female fitness models and there is nothing remotely sexual about it.

I follow loads of male fitness models and bodybuilding IG accounts - what is wrong with that? Surely they post their photos with the expectation they will be looked at?

I don't understand IG tbh, I leave that for my kids but why are you not having sex? what are his reasons?

Cat2014 yes I do agree with you a bit more tact and sensitivity towards OP would be a good thing.

He may not be leering at these pics in a pervy way though and therefore see no need to 'incognito mode' it. As he says and OP agrees, he's also following male fitness accounts.

fair enough, fitness models can be inspiring. It's all in the context isn't it. I just feel bad for OP, she deserves to feel wanted by her DH and not neglected and traded in for booby gazing.

Following sport people on social media has nothing to do with porn I assure you! (well, some followers might have a sexual reason, but not everybody does). I follow various male and female fitness models and there is nothing remotely sexual about it.

...there are definitely the equivalent of glamour models out there with a thin veneer of being about fitness. Just as there are a good many female livestreamers who seem to get most of their audience by their looks and their flirting with the audience rather than their gaming.

I recall Zuzka Light and the dude that kept on with the Bodyrock TV name breaking up and him getting a new girlfriend who was also a fitness model. Zuzka had been in porn previously (and now, at least, is rather focused on fitness rather than it seeming like a pretense) but as the Bodyrock brand progressed with this new couple, the woman involved had shitloads of work done, it seemed, and the couple of clips I watched were all very pornified, and she didn't look happy at all. Creepy as fuck. No man was watching that shit for the fitness tips.

Serialweightwatcher following someone on Instagram isn't sharing pics either.

OP do you seriously want to consider your relationship being "the beginning of the end" because of this? You're happy with the sex but say "don't people do it more?" Why are you worried about what other people do?

You acknowledge you follow people as well so it's really double standards if you continue to follow those people. It's really one rule for you and one rule for him and that's not fair at all. He's tired, you're tired. Work on your relationship together and stop worrying and trivial things like who is following who on Instagram. He's literally just following some fitness models, just like you are doing. He's not a twat, you're not a twat.

I'd find this quite juvenile, and would wonder if I was with a man or an adolescent boy. It would be a turn-off for me.

OP, can you clarify who is following male fitness models on Instagram? You or him?

I feel like that is a central point!

Your update does make it seem a bit of a different situation tbh. As a previous poster said, everyone has their own boundaries but I'm not sure this situation is necessarily terrible. He follows fitness models of both sexes on Instagram, and you aren't getting as much sex as you want. I'm not sure the two are connected.

No wonder there are so many divorces and breakups, if people are so oversensitive. This thread is bonkers. Why doesn't OP adress the cause of the issues rather than the symptons of them.

Is he liking and sharing? Commenting on pics and interacting? Because that would be different to just following.

Do you initiate sex or is that his job?