DH Instagram account WTF?

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AIBU to take it personally- So here I am three kids later a bit on the chunkier side and it's annoys me so much how my husband follows all these hot fitness models on Instagram. Is that what he finds sexy? Whoops that ain't me.

It's practically naked girls. Did I mention he doesn't instigate anything in the bed department? (That's another thread)
So cross and frustrated.

Before you ask, have spoken to him about this until I'm blue I the face!!!

I hate this kinda thing too, as it would embarrass me any friends seeing he is ogling over a pair of tits

That's awful and very insensitive of him - he's in a relationship with children for goodness sake - time to be thoughtful, caring and grow up - I'd be fuming and yanbu at all!

"What reasons does he give for not wanting sex?"
Before we get any further can I just throw in that no one - male or female- needs to give reasons for not wanting sex. No one is entitled to sex (sorry, OP, that's not so much aimed at you - but at a few responses).

I get that this is a really frustrating situation for you OP. It's perfectly natural for a man (as well as a woman) to still enjoy looking at attractive members of the opposite sex. Though, if he does this blatantly in front of you that's twattish.
In the same way (and sorry for being blunt) you cannot force him to find you attractive or to want to have sex with you. That isn't to say that you are unattractive or undesirable.
Essentially, you deserve to be in a relationship that makes you happy. Are you happy? Will your husband change? Will he re-discover his libido?
I would have a frank discussion with your husband. Really re-assess your situation. If a relationship does not make you happy, walk away.
It's probably best for everyone involved including your DC.

in a relationship with children for goodness sake

Oh well there you go, all the women in relationships with children who talk about hot men on here are mightily insensitive. Let's hope their DHs don't start snooping on their MN account hey.

Time for me to bugger off this thread now, can't be doing with this silliness.

See I don't think women should talk about "hot" men either it's just so leery. I've always found it gross and cringe worthy. We have beautiful friends DH and I both agree but we don't define them by their looks or leer at them like they are a piece of meat

We all have our own boundaries in relationships and if that's not for you op then that is fine.

I would hate it and think my partner is a ' twat' who needs to grow up . If you don't, and you don't mind, then that is fine too.

I also don't drool over hardy or hiddllestone. Don't even think I could pick them out of a line up.
My oh is the only for for me. I just don't look at other men

Obviously you can tell people who are good looking but I don't seek this out. I have no interest.

Blimey BottomlyP0tts, you should see some of the Tom Hardy and Aiden Turner threads on here.

Lots of knicker wetting going on.

as a PP said, have you seen the Taboo posts on here?

Before we get any further can I just throw in that no one - male or female- needs to give reasons for not wanting sex

Quite, and the OP hasn't actually said that DP doesn't want sex, just that DP doesn't instigate it... he might be screaming out inside to have some sex instigated!

I would like it..

As mentioned by various other posters, I think these are two separate issues.

That said, it can hardly be said to be odd, unreasonable or surprising that people who are held to be in "good shape" are widely considered to be attractive... I mean that is essentially inherent in the very concept of good or bad shape, is it not? 95% of people across the globe are going to be drawn to those they consider to be in good shape.

Ah you're right, fact is he's clearly an adult and has a thing for it. Not into double standards. He's the one that looks 15.

Everything else is fine. When I spoke to him he said I'm following just as many men and group fitness. Which is true

Think sometimes he's wishing he was like these guys...

The sex thing when we do it it's fab but I'm just feel surely people are doing it more? He is not tactile at all never has been. He tries but like writing with his left hand he says.

He's a builder so tired too.

Do you really think beginning of end?

If you follow the equivalent of male ones then really you can't criticise him at all. That is just the kind of relationship you have.

The sex issue is a different ball game. He doesn't have to have sex, he doesn't need to provide a reason. HOWEVER if you didn't sign up for a sexless marriage you deserve to have your (very valid) needs met.

Wouldnt like it ** sorry😂

I'd be livid and really upset. I'm a feminist and get really pissed off about female objectification anyway. I don't know what I would do in your shoes. I cannot imagine my DP doing that especially if he saw it upset me. I'm so sorry your DH seems to lack the decency to show appreciation to the woman who's given birth to his three children. It's appalling what with the lack of sex too. I don't have any tips but IMO YANBU.

Wtf does writing with his left hand mean ?

I'd be livid and really upset. I'm a feminist

no shit

So it's ok for us women to follow male celebs, but oh the outrage if a man dares doing anything. Even the OP wrote When I spoke to him he said I'm following just as many men and group fitness. Which is true
Why are you not livid and upset on behalf of the OP husband there?

I honestly would love to know the real relationship status of posters like PussInCoutts or what kind of doormat they are with if they do have a relationship.

ShowMePotatoSalad before you bugger off, nobody on here shares photos of almost naked men - don't make comparisons that aren't there

""Wtf does writing with his left hand mean ?""

Having a wank.

When I spoke to him he said I'm following just as many men and group fitness. Which is true

I took that to mean he was following males too not the op?

Thank you birds a new one on me !

That seems a bigger issue than instagram to me .

Sorry writing with left hand.. feels foreign. Would be weird.
From a loveless upbringing so finds it hard to show love

How is he showing love to the 3 children ?

The thing is. I would feel so inadequate if dp was doing things like this, especially openly. It's one thing to inwardly appreciate another's attractiveness. It's another thing to publicly show this kind of .. Leeriness.. And display to your other half that you find someone else more desirable then they, regardless of how likely you are to meet them irl or not! It's just insensitive and crass at best.

PointXTaken, relationship status engaged to be married thanks.
neither of us follow sexualised people online. DP knows I wouldn't mind if he wants to watch porn occasionally etc. I'm not personally interested in it.
I think it's weird to be drooling over the opposite sex if you're with someone in a relationship. no mayer what gender you are.
That sort of equality, you see Pointtaken, is feminism. take that point.