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to worry where my relationship is going?

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tigersbuddy · 24/02/2017 18:34

I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. Everything is good. I have two children from a previous relationship and he is great with them.
I want to settle down, live together have a baby etc. Every which way I put this to him he comes up with excuses. I KNOW he loves me......I'm in no doubt about that but I feel that after 3 years of being a couple it is not unreasonable to want things to move forwards.
I found houses for us to move into as a couple- he didn't like any of them.
I suggested we buy a small property together he said no incase we split up. He is unsure if he wants kids even though I have been clear from the start that I wanted more and he would sit and discuss baby names with me. He is happy for our relationship to continue......him with his own place, staying over at mine a few nights a week. I want more.

I just don't know what to do. I have this horrible sinking feeling that we want very different things moving forwards and perhaps whilst our personalities are comparable, our expectations of life are very different.
I don't want to lose him. He's the best thing that has ever happened to me but I don't want all the compromises to be on my part.

I don't know how to sort it out. I always felt like it was a fairytale relationship and I guess I just want my happy ending.

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proudbrows · 28/11/2017 21:35

I know I’m a little late to the party but what was the outcome of this OP? Interested to know as I’m in a very similar situation to this right now!

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