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AIBU to think this is weird

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beardedlobster · 23/02/2017 16:17

Hello, long time lurker but first time poster here.
I have just met up with a friend of mine who said something that I perceive to be a really weird and want to know what others think.

My friend has recently moved back in with her parents so we were talking about how it was going. She said that so far it was going well the only thing she was worried about was her dad seeing her naked. I laughed and said I suppose that could be embarrassing but I wouldn't worry about it.
She then said it wasn't the embarrassment that would bother her but she was worried that if he saw her naked he would find her sexually attractive and that would change their relationship.
I said I thought this was a strange thing to think and that I very much doubt that this would happen but she then got upset saying it was a genuine concern as she knows she has a good body (which she really does).
I really didn't know what to say, is it just me or is this a really really bizarre thing to think never mind be worked up about? She is 30 years old if it makes any difference.

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pizzafrenchfries · 23/02/2017 17:54

I have a friend who was abused as a teenager and has a lot of issues connected to her body and almost who 'owns' it and has rights to it in a way... very very complicated. Anyway she feels like this about family members. It's almost like the abuse took away any reasoning behind attraction - so many boundaries have been crossed and trust broken that simply the fact that you are related does not mean (to her) that a person would not commit abuse. She confuses the reasoning behind abuse between attraction and power- probably because what was said to her during the years of abuse.

She also is very beautiful, but she's said her abuser often pushed the blame of the abuse on to her so she almost blamed herself over why it occurred.

This situation to me in no way shouts arrogance, it shouts help.

TheWinterOfOurDiscountTents · 23/02/2017 17:56

It doesn't have to mean anything bad about her parents.

Lochan · 23/02/2017 17:57

Don't show her the thread!

If it comes up, gently ask if there's a reason she thinks this.

And no, often we have no idea what our friends lives are live behind closed doors.

I discovered to my shock that a friend's husband beat her up for more than 15 years. None of us knew. Not her friends, not her family, not her colleagues.

Never assume that you know everything.

MermaidsTears · 24/02/2017 03:38

Poor girl, I hope you manage to ask her tomorrow op.

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