why is it assumed, because im a mother, I dont work?? (outside home)

[BarbieLovesKen]

am so so so sick of this, what year is it??

for instance, last Sunday dp and I were out at a dinner party, type thing.. we met a couple there for the first time, lovely, lovely people.. they had their dds there and we had dd with us. Anyway, we all got chatting and dp asked what they (BOTH) did for a living, then in return, they both asked dp what he did for a living and listened with interest when he explained, I sat there, all smiles, and they moved on.... NOONE asked what I did... I took from this that it was assumed that because I had a little girl I didn?t work.

I was really insulted! Im not being overly sensitive, it wasn?t a once off, this is such a regular occurrence......

My job is just as interesting, paid, conversation-worthy as dps... so why is he ALWAYS asked what he does while I just sit there, smiling, proud, like a dutiful little wife?? Is this just the way things are????????? AAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGHHHH

[yellowrose]

Any way, signing off this thread, it is far too long !

[Judy1234]

We probably aren't that different, yr. I've been fairly devoted to my children. I must have been to have 5 of them over 22 years. I breastfed all of them to usually up to a year and I can't seem to get rid even of the 3 of them at university. Perhaps if I'd bottle fed them and sent them to nursery and then to board at 7 they wouldn't be so bonded they keep returning in waves even at 18+.

Money thing is relative anyway. The children who have poor outcomes are those in real poverty usually also without good parenting and love rather than a stay at home parent managing on her or his partner's £18k a year wage.

[yellowrose]

Xenia, hope you don't think that I suggested you were not devoted to your children. Five kids must be bloody hard work, more than I could ever imagine I think.

Hope to hear from you again on other threads.