to ask when you think its best to have a baby

[ijustheartdietcoke]

if u met your partner young ... when would you have ideally chosen to have a baby? He thinks best to try not but Im not so sure xx

I'm with expatinscotland about at least getting married first, but for additional reasons to theirs also:

If you were to get pregnant now you could well be full of the joys of the first trimester symptoms during your wedding day (and in the already stressful weeks leading to it) which could spoil it for you. I'm talking bloating to the point where your dress might not fit, sickness, mood swings, crippling fatigue, acne, needing to pee a lot etc.

I know a lot of women marry whilst pregnant (and that's great!) but it is a gamble in terms of how well you'll feel on the day and which symptoms you'll be dealing with.

DH and I met at 21, married at 25 and are both turning 27 soon.

Neither of us are in any way ready to consider babies, let alone have one. We're not sure we ever want kids. Only you'll know when you're ready.

Well I definitely want to get married first but he's keen to start trying sooner rather than later as we've got the house, secure jobs, I just don't know really

If you don't know right now then that's ok. You don't have to start a family just because your partner is ready. It makes sense that he's broodier than you seeing as he's older than you. He's probably just had a few more years to think about it, generally speaking. Just be honest with him and tell him how you feel. Im sure he'll understand.

I met my husband when we were 16. We are 30 now and are currently TTC our first.

The right time for us was when we were financially stable (with stable jobs) and had a roof over our heads suitable for a family.

Oh and married. But that was more for our parents than us I suppose.

Dh is 27 and I'm the same age as you, we already have 2. It's whatever feels right for you op. Congratulations on your wedding

For us personally we got together at 19 and didn't have our first child until we were 32. We chose to wait as we wanted to travel, socialise/ go to gigs without restrictions, finish and degrees/ post grads and make sure that we had bought a family home. We have always been quite chilled out. They were our reasons to wait and I'm glad I did. We have the education we want and a house big enough in a nice area we can stay in until children grow up if we wish.

H2B is older than me so its a bit complicated with that!

How much older and why complicated?

I met DH when we were 17. We married at 25 and has DS at 28. I'm now pregnant again at 30.

I'm really glad we didn't rush into having children. We travelled and established careers and enjoyed our freedom first.

I met DH at 24, moved in with him at 26, married at 28, had first baby at 29, second is due April and I'll be 32 (or 31 if she's early).