To the woman at the hospital judging me for being on my phone

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I am at a hospital waiting room with my son. Ophthalmology, nothing serious he's happily playing with the toys. I'm sat on my phone. There's a woman sat round the corner saying to her friend ' I hate seeing mums ignore thier kids on phone's. I know she's talking about me because she just glared and tutted a minute ago.

What she doesn't know isthat I suffer from huge health anxiety. Simply looking at a noticeboard in a hospital is triggering

Overthinking I don't think anyone is commenting on older children using the internet for homework? The issue (if there is one) is that everyone pretty much uses phones now - for much of their down time. Being in the company of small dc is often unarguably dull so the temptation to go on your phone while with them is strong. The impact of this on child development isn't fully understood yet.

I am on my phone in the school playground. I've just left work literally 6 mins ago and I'm catching up on texts,emails,phone calls,ebay or whatever. Kepps me from having to talk to people as well Dd is one of the last kids out ,and once she is out she chases her friends,talks to them,walks with them,while i trail behind ,phone now in pocket, arms full of book bag,water bottle,cardigan,5 drawings and a scrunchie or two. Poor neglected DD. Who is top group of her class,and her teacher always praises her behaviour and how polite it is. That's obviously all learned from youtube videos

The thing is the internet is addictive...
I had a massive fight with DD1 (just turned 16) last night because she wouldn't give me her phone at 12.30am...
(Long story - has ADHD, keeps being late for school, is supposed to give it to me earlier etc) - I know if I don't take it off her she will still be awake at 2am. She says she can control it - but she really can't .
The other night she came into my bedroom asking for it back cos she couldn't get to sleep - this is a child who loved reading and used to spend hours reading and has a selection of books to choose from...and had limited screen time (even TV when she was little)
We recently got a new 'smart' tv - I've had to start limiting DD2 (10) as she was watching you tube on it and didn't want to do anything else - getting up early to go and watch. When I suggested a time limit she said she would rather not watch it on the tv at all - as as soon as one video stopped it started playing another and it was so hard to stop.
Instead she said she would only watch Youtube on her phone - so it wasn't as easy - yep now she is constantly on her phone. (But she doesn't have mobile data on it - and the I have the WIFI set up with limited time access and she doesn't take her phone to bed.)
I take my phone up to bed now - I have alarms on it etc and worried about fire (We had a corded landline in our bedroom but it has stopped working for some reason. I did have a flat burn down when I was out in my 20s - if I had been in I would have died - so I am super aware of fire).
And I've found myself just having a quick google of something I'd thought of - or playing a silly mindless game ...I am thinking of turning the WIFI off on it at night for me too...and I work from home so am often on my computer and find myself on MN etc - avoiding doing what I am supposed to be doing...