I really hate my neighbours

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I really hate my neighbours, we've fallen out. They have complained about our noise etc several times. We are a perfectly normal but busy/sociable family. We're self employed and own a well know successful business in our local town. When I see them it makes be feel really pissed off!! I feel I can't go about daily life without feeling stressed incase I meet them out the front. Moving is not happening as I'm lucky enough to live in HA housing in a very sought after area. Just wondering how people who hate their neighbours go about their day to day lives without the neighbours affecting their life/moods etc! I really hate confrontation too!!

My NDN complains about the noise, it's not just us, they complain about their other NDN, the house at the back and the three houses opposite. We did well to be last, TBH they need a detached house as the complaints are usually what you expect living close to other people.

I'd like to hear the neighbour's side of things. I bet there's car doors banging at all hours, barbecues, shouting, taxis dropping off and picking up, swinging parties, the lot.

These entrepreneur types think they're better than everyone around them.

Our old neighbor probably thought she was sociable & no bother, she was so fucking noisy we moved house.
what time of night are you making noise to? Do you have parties/friends over all the time?

Rhayader, they're self employed, so their salaries will be tiny. All profits ploughed into the business.

You probably are a noisy neighbour OP.

Our NDN complain about everything. They don't like us using our front door or leaving a window open in case they hear it
If a door slammed in the wind they would be straight round
It was a relief to fall out with them. We have high fences and our garden laid out so we don't see next door at all
If I see them I smile and walk past but I would never speak or make friends. They would moan about everything again

They are unbelievably quiet for a terraced house! The weed smell coming out of their main bedroom is rank!! He has told me he has never liked neighbours and wants to live in a desert island!

I hate my neighbours. They're noisy bastards, they bought a dog they can't be arsed to train and leave it to bark at anything and everything that passes their front window, they fix their tv's to adjoining walls and have the volume up very loud, their kids are up til after 10 every night (under 6) running up and down stairs, slamming doors, screaming and their dog shits in my garden.
I imagine my neighbours don't like me much because I've moaned at them (about the incessant barking, shit in my garden, excessive noise. . )

MARI, that's what I imagine a bad neighbour to be, but that just isn't us at all.

If you've lived there for 30 years and brought up 6 children with no complaints then clearly they are the problem.

I'm sure you have enough strength of character, what with your well known and successful local business, to ride out the storm.

Move away. Only solution really.

Otherwise tough it out and be a good neighbour yourself.

what exactly is the noise they complain about? Is it just everyday noise like leaving/coming from the house etc or do you play loud music, have people over all hours etc?

Ok if you genuinely aren't noisy then just ignore them...

Thanks, EXIT, you would think, but this bugs me like nothing else ever has! They thought I was unemployed until one confrontation, the guy was very "i work I work I work! " until I explained I also did but from home. Haven't heard a peep since, just feel pissed off as I don't want to deal with them and their tiny minds!

GIZ, that's what I've been doing, luckily never bumped into them out the front, but it's going to happen eventually!

I don't get on with 2 lots of my neighbours-they are friends and no doubt bitch about me.I just do my best to ignore and blank them and they do the same back.I have been here 30 years-31.5 and 20 years for them.

HARRY, mainly the noise complaint has been my kids playing in the garden and a kids party I had that finished at 7pm on a Wednesday night! Guy said it was way too late for midweek!!! They have 3 kids and they never go in their garden or do anything from what I can see

How do successful professional people get housing association?

Seriously. Please elaborate. We are very working class and struggling to pay our high rent. Never even crossed my mind we would even be considered for social housing.

I also think you should free your house up for someone who actually needs it.

I'd like to hear the neighbour's side of things. I bet there's car doors banging at all hours, barbecues, shouting, taxis dropping off and picking up, swinging parties, the lot. These entrepreneur types think they're better than everyone around them.

What a bitchy comment, based purely on prejudgement.

Oh, and I'm sure you use stuff that "these entrepreneur types" have invented/are selling.

Thank fuck you're not MY neighbour!

Why are people hung up on OP living in social housing when they have a successful business? Anyone can live in social housing- yes priority is given to higher need but if you have a local connection you can apply.

Why should they free it up for someone else?

If you see them out the front, smile and politely say hello. I used to do that to my ex-neighbours from hell and it used to drive them nuts because I wouldn't argue with them. They did everything from vandalizing my car to - my personal fave - telling their local priest that I was a devil-worshipper! When they finally moved I had a party

I was given advice by the other neighbour which was to tell them to report us to the council and not to step foot on my property again. They phoned the council to complain about the elderly mans opposite carer's car waking them up a 7 on a Saturday.

STAR, like I said this thread is for coping with shitty neighbours! Not whether I'm entitled to a HA house!
But just so you know.., this is my family home and have been in HA housing for almost 30 years, I qualified on homelessness back then and have worked my fucking socks off to make a successful living for myself!

I hate my neighbours they smoke so much drugs at the edge of there garden they have damaged my trampoline I've just found out today it stinks of cannabis and there is stains all over the one side I can't remove 😣

Our downstairs neighbour is a cunt. He's such a huge cunt the HA has branded him a nuisance. He complains about any noise and we have a son with ASD and cannot afford to move at all. We've had to have him arrested twice for threatening us with violence, the last time just months after he got out of jail for possessing a gram of smack. He's on a court-appointed methadone programme now. Some people are just arseholes.