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To never want to show my face in work again?

65 replies

RottenTomatoes959 · 18/02/2017 19:35

I only started the job about four weeks ago and got invited out last night with a few of them. Went along and had one or two too many and ended up kissing one of the guys I work with. To make matters worse I was so embarrassed about I just left then without saying bye to any of them.
I do have a bit of a crush on him but can't imagine facing him or any of them that were there again!

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SmileEachDay · 18/02/2017 19:38

Style it out.

Tis the only way.

Funnyface1 · 18/02/2017 19:39

Go in, be friendly, you'll be absolutely fine.

cardibach · 18/02/2017 19:42

Presumably he kissed you too as you haven't suggested any use of force! The British way is never to mention it again, although if you fancy him and he's single, and taking into account that he did kiss you, that might not be the best way forward here.

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 · 18/02/2017 19:43

Insist you were spiked?

PinkSquash · 18/02/2017 19:44

Go into work and hold your head high. Nothing to be ashamed of?

JenniferYellowHat1980 · 18/02/2017 19:49

Did he kiss you back? Confused

RottenTomatoes959 · 18/02/2017 19:50

I know I'm probably over thinking it but that's what I do best it seems.
Cardibach he actually was the first to make a move,not that I was complaining, and as much as I'd like the possibility of something more we work way too closely for it to happen.

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RottenTomatoes959 · 18/02/2017 19:51

Jennifer he actually kissed me first.

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passingthrough1 · 18/02/2017 19:52

Oh I've done this (long time a go). Feel embarrassed just thinking about it.

ChocolateButton15 · 18/02/2017 19:53

Just laugh about it if anyone brings it up but don't start any conversations about the night out. They might discuss it Monday but by Wednesday it will all be forgotten about

TiredMumToTwo · 18/02/2017 19:53

I snogged my now DH at a works Xmas do, Monday morning they were trying to rib us both about it but he was so hot and everyone fancied him so I just said - you bet I did, jealous?!

Trainspotting1984 · 18/02/2017 19:55

Oh love don't worry. Style it out. Bet he fancies you too

cardibach · 18/02/2017 19:56

I don't really understand 'work to closely' as a reason not to be with someone. Unless you are porn stars - that could be awkward Grin.

OreoCat · 18/02/2017 19:58

Hmmm...is navy okay for my wedding hat?

RottenTomatoes959 · 18/02/2017 19:59

No nothing so adventurous Grin But its a small enough office and if we did start something and it went downhill it would make for a very awkward time at work.

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tenterden · 18/02/2017 20:05

Agree, style it out! We've all done it! Grin

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 18/02/2017 20:10

Where I work I am very unusual in that my husband does not work there too.

ReasonablyIntelligent · 18/02/2017 20:19

Oh you'll be grand. You didn't force yourself upon him, you've done nothing wrong.

Will it be a summer wedding?

JenniferYellowHat1980 · 18/02/2017 20:28

How lovely. YABU to never show your face again at work.

Kbear · 18/02/2017 20:33

I love the expression "style it out" - it makes me think you'd have to saunter in looking HOT with a feather boa that you'd swoosh over your shoulder as you walk through the office haha

what does it "actually mean" cos I've been known to be clueless about these things, particularly anything with "style" in the title !!

DeterminedToChange · 18/02/2017 20:34

Do either of you have partners?

tenterden · 18/02/2017 20:35

Tits and teeth Grin

Heels on, smile, best foot forward.

Nonchalant comment if anyone has the temerity to mention it - "Oh, that was a bit of harmless fun"

Gileswithachainsaw · 18/02/2017 20:36

Just go in as if nothing happened. Could be worse.

Least you didn't shag him and get caught by another staff member Blush

JenniferYellowHat1980 · 18/02/2017 20:40

Re styling it out: I tried this unsuccessfully once. I was at an outdoor event with family. A really hot guy was there with his friends. He kept looking over and gave me his number at the end.

Anyway at one point I'd carried my toddler brother closer to the arena to watch something. As the light was beginning to fade I popped my sunglasses on my head but as we were walking back they dropped down again onto my face. For some silly reason, because I knew Hot Guy was watching I thought I'd just leave them there as if my sunnies were simply obeying some telepathic instruction of mine rather than simply put them back up and acknowledge I hadn't intended it.

Anyway of course when I phoned him he reminded me of it and thought it funny then proceeded to mess me about over the phone for a few days before I cut my losses

RottenTomatoes959 · 18/02/2017 20:41

Determined No we're both free as birds.
Giles Oh no Blush I feel for you

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