To want alcohol every evening?

[emma2468]

I'd love a glass of presecco or a Bacardi & coke of an evening either with dinner or after the kids are in bed. Hubby is dead against drinking every day and thinks it should only be reserved for Fri/Sat/Sun evenings. A big part of this is due to him loosing his mum to bowel & liver cancer when she was only 60. Her only "bad habit" was a glass or two every evening. If I just say I'm having a drink he kind of makes me feel like an alcoholic! Not that he'd stop me just he'd disapprove and I'm a people pleaser 😄

The OP doesn't drink much though. She just wants to drink more

I've never understood the logic behind thinking having an alcoholic drink will somehow relieve the stresses of the day but I suppose it's a similar outlook to the ones my older relatives have where they offer cups of tea no matter the crisis....

Death - Have a cup of tea.
Cancer - Have a cup of tea.
Car Accident - Have a cup of tea.

Literally whatever negative situations arise in my family tea is offered as the comforting solution but I have never found it makes me feel better and I certainly don't think alcohol does either. After a stressful day the last thing I want is alcohol but we're all different and have different coping mechanisms.

I would be very on edge though if my partner was/was wanting to consume alcohol on a daily basis, I think it's important to give our minds/bodies a rest. I was drunk on Monday night though but that was the first since Christmas.

Each to their own!

You sound like you are becoming dependent on alcohol especially if you are "craving it every evening"

I'd say if you can actually have a night not drinking and you're not shaking or feeling anxious then you don't have a problem. It's difficult as in my day it was it was normal for people to go to the pub every night, now due to how expensive it is they don't, but drink at home instead.

Ultimately it's your body to do with how you please. But the odd day or two off is good for cleansing etc.

I have more of an issue with those who are sober all week then get totally shit faced at weekends. I think that does a lot more harm.

We have bodily autonomy, it's not up to your husband, it's up to you what you do. There's plenty of people who wouldn't eat a meal without a glass of wine, so I think there isn't necessarily a right or wrong answer.

Your DH saw his mother drink alcohol every night and she ended up dying of liver cancer at 60. Whether that was the cause or not, it's understandable that he'd be worried about you drinking the same amount. I think the kind and sensitive thing would be to reduce your alcohol intake to a couple of nights a week. There's plenty of non-alcoholic alternatives out there that taste just as nice IMO.