To get pissed of with neighbours for shouting at ds playing footie in our street

[ssd]

when his ball never goes near their effin car and hasn't for the last 2 years he's been allowed out the front to play?

if there ever was damage of course we'd pay, but FFS dh is out their playing with him now and the balls nowhere near the bloody car in question.

I can understand if your car gets damaged or your garden gets trampled. I would go mad if either ds's done this. Once (and I mean once) he played chap chap run away, we found out and gave him hell and made him apologise (even though I played this often ad a kid!!).

what gets my goat is the unreasonableness of my neighbours. next door has loud, braying friends over for parties almost evry Friday and it keeps both ds's awake, our houses are in a terrace and walls are thin. she knows we can hear her friends, she asked me about it once and I said I could almost keep up with their conversation at one point!! But I siad to her we live in tiny houses all close together, we have to live and let live a bit and she's entitled to have company around, which is a PITA for us but not the end of the world. But a few weeks later ds2's blow up plastic ball rolled against her car wheel and she went mad at him (Iwas there-he was 3 -the ball almost blew away in the wind....)

So where's the tolerance in that?

Twiglet seems to be thinking my ds is battering a ball against house walls or into gardens - not at all. But he still gets glared at or shouted at from neighbours whose kids have grown up and now they seem to hate all kids.

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I suppose it depends whether you can hear the rhythmic thump thump and block it out or not

we live on a quiet street and sometimes its the only noise

I suspect that if he is playing outside unsupervised you may not know how often the ball is hitting things. This happened with our neighbours (they have 2 boys, similar in age to our 2 girls). I was fairly toerant for a while, but lost it when they trashed the new plants we had just put in the garden. Neighbour asked what had happened & I told her. Turns out boys had assured her ball never went anywhere etc etc. Luckily we get on well so was all sorted out amicably (boys got football on a rope off us for christmas ).

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Games are annoying esp when lazy parents dont supervise their kids,also it is v. 2 faced to let them play outside becos you dont want your garden damaged..... however as neighbours if you knew that play would be supervised and stopped at reasonable time e.g noisy games stopped at 8pm , it maybe wouldnt be so bad.

I think it's totally acceptable if the kids in question are 4 miles from a park and live in flats... I don't think banging balls against the walls of houses is ever acceptable though.

However if the parents have a garden, the kids should be playing footy in their own garden.

Even quiet streets are not so quiet as they were in the past, there are so many cars on raods now that i feel you may as well go and tell your kids to play with the traffic if you let them play out on the road.

But I can see why they're allowed if kids don't have gardens or access to parks, they have to play somewhere.

look, if I minded that much I wouldn't be returning their football to them would I?

I do believe kids have a right to play

I think kids should play outside their own houses if they must play in the street and not use house walls as a goal .. I don't have an issue with neighbour's kid(s) they have as much right as anyone but when a bunch of kids who don't even live here turn up they can just fark off

it doesn't happen all the time and they seem to have moved their game down the road a bit now .. just wait till nasty greek bloke has a go then .. he even scares me

We live on a shared driveway (two houses)and in Summer our driveway is a magnet for local children.

At one point, we had over 20 children outside playing (including our own children of course).

Myself and my neighbour regularly give out plasters and sympathy, retrieve lost balls and frisbees's stuck in the tree, contant stream of children in to use the loo or have a drink. We sort out arguments and disputes on a regular basis and let kids useour phone so that they can let their own parents know where they are.

I used to play outside all the time when I was little and want my own children to be able to do the same with their friends and would much prefer that they were in sight of me and safe.

At one point, a box of chalks was distributed around a group of children and our whole driveway (block paving) was decorated from one end to the other. I'm sure that most of those children woiuld not have been allowed to decorate their own 'perfect' drveways like that, but it washed off easily enough, so why not.

I will just say though, that all the childre that come round are nice and polite. Any trouble and we ask them to leave. I also expect them to pick up their own litter and wouldn't tolerate damage to my car/property.

yes twig I can see your side

ds plays right outside OUR house

garden is full of muck and wouldn't be any use

park is 4 miles away

he's in bed by 8 sleeping!!

doesn't boot it against walls, if he did and was chased I would expect him to be shouted at by neighbours

and for what its worth if you're looking for total silence you'd have to move to the back of beyond

have u not got a garden?

Not meaning to be rude btw. I have a thing about kids playing in the street anyway.

You neighbours should have spoken to you rather than shout at ur ds tho

I think kids should be allowed to play football in the streets. It's an age old tradition.

My neighbour shouted nastily at my kids for playing in our garden.

I think people are miserable gits in this country over children. Playing football in the street is a great wholesome activity. Far better than watching telly, sniffing glue or robbing. To be encouraged.

That was me btw. I forgot I was still logged on as MrSimpson.

ssd, why is your garden full of muck? How on earth did that happen? I am being facetious by the way, my own garden is not a pretty sight at the moment.

However I do feel it's my responsiblity to provide ds with a garden he can play in so will be heaving mud, broken pots and fence panels soon so that I can make a useable space for ds this summer.

Is there a possibility you could address the garden issue; might make your life slightly easier as regards neighbours this summer, and tbh I think your ds would enjoy his own little area to be a bit free in rather than dodging round cars.

well, we live in rainy Glasgow hence the muck!!also the earth is full of clay and doesn't drain well at all.

TBH my garden is very small, was great when ds was little but at nearly 9 he's well outgrown it. He needs more space, but I don't want him too far away, hence playing in front of our house.

TBH just came on here to rant about miserable old neighbours taking snotty tone with ds, he'll keep playing footie in the street if me and dh have anything to do with it.